Online Dating? Never make these mistakes!
So, you’re ready for love. Or at least you think you are… So you jump online and join one of the many dating sites to find the love of your life.
Or you’re really hip, and you join a dating app like Tinder or Bumble or something very similar in search of your prince or princess.
But wait a minute! Are you really ready to do this online dating thing?
For the past 28 years, number one best-selling author, counselor and life coach David Essel has been helping thousands of people from around the world to get ready for love. To find that lasting love relationship that’s going to rock their world.
But he has several warnings for people who are looking to fall in love online.
Below are David’s four key dating mistakes that people make when they join an online relationship site.
Number one. “Are you really sure you’re ready for love? Are you still hurting from a past relationship? Are you still jaded against men or women because of the way you were treated in the past? Have you been out of a relationship less than three months?
If you answer yes to any of these questions, if you haven’t cleared up the past emotional baggage…Do not even think about joining an online site!
Too many people are looking for love, maybe not in the wrong places, but in the wrong mindset. And until you’re able to shift your beliefs and truly are able to let go of the past damage that has happened to you, or the past damage that you’ve inflicted on others, stay off of any dating site or app until you’ve cleared up the past.
A number of years ago a woman came to me who was fresh out of a relationship, jaded as hell against men, and wanted me to help her write a smashing profile for an online dating site. Within three weeks she saw the truth. She wasn’t ready at all. Thank God she took the time to continue to do the work to release her resentments against men, and when she was clear of the past, I helped her get online and find an amazing love relationship. The same can happen to you.
Number two. So you clear up your past. You get online. You meet a few people that you like. You get into a texting relationship. Too much texting will absolutely shoot down any serious potential relationship.
Several of my female clients that are looking to get into new relationships get very frustrated with men who only want to text back-and-forth and won’t even text talk on the phone. You can sound like a rockstar via texting but once you get on the phone and someone hears the tone of your voice, even if you speak in complete sentences, it’s a different world. Many women get frustrated with men who only want to text. It’s almost like they’re hiding something and the same thing goes for women.
It’s time to grow up, get mature, and get out of the fantasy land that texting creates if you’re ready to create a deep and loving relationship.
Number three. You have too many potential people you’re trying to get to know and you get confused, or call someone the wrong name, or get overwhelmed with the volume of people you’re interacting with and start slipping and forgetting to reply to them in a professional fashion.
We recommend that you narrow it down to only one or two people at a time that you’re trying to get to know to avoid making the mistakes of letting people slip through the cracks who could be great matches for you.
And remember this. Your reputation, in the world of dating, can get highly damaged if you’re one of those people that has two, four, or 10 individuals that you’re trying to get to know who become frustrated with your lack of attention. Slowdown.
Number four. If you have a sincere interest in someone, meet them as soon as possible in person. Once again, the world of texting becomes a fantasy land where we project who we want people to think we are and vice versa. If someone lives within a 2 hour drive from you meet them within seven days if it’s hot and heavy. I recommend to my clients to meet right away.
Listen it’s worth a 2 hour drive for lunch to see if who the person is presenting themself as, is the real deal. You can tell a lot within a short lunch. If you have chemistry, if they are courteous to the servers, and many other things will be exposed that can easily be hidden via texting and or phone calls.
You’ve got to put in the physical effort before it’s too late to see if they’re a great match. Thousands of people create this fantasy relationship in their head by staying on the phone and or texting then when they actually meet someone in person they see that they’re not a match at all.
The above tips are a starting point to find a great relationship. Read them again. Take them seriously. I have helped thousands of people avoid the trap of fantasy love and I want you to do the same thing.”
If you need help in the search for the love of your life visit David’s website and take a look at his many courses regarding relationships, codependency and love to give yourself the best shot at creating that divine union to carry with you for the rest of your life. Information at www.davidessel.com