Healing Stories: Is Sobriety for Everyone?
Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic. Statements like these are a 100% fabrication of the truth.
For the past 24 years, counselor, life coach and number one best-selling author David Essel has seen hundreds of individuals, who were told that they would never get sober for life, accomplish exactly that goal. And you can too .
One of his most powerful stories that he tells at lectures is the recovery of a client named Harvey. Harvey came to David on his knees, rock bottom for the one hundredth time.
He had been told by various professionals that it really wasn’t his fault that he was an alcoholic. He had the genetic link which meant he was doomed for life. They tried to tell him that there were various medications he could take to help cut his cravings but that at the level he had been drinking for as long as he had been drinking the opportunity for sobriety was almost nil.
There are even professional organizations, who’s intention it is to help people get sober, that will pass the same absolute lies that the professionals told Harvey… In meetings they would tell him that once you’re an alcoholic you always are. That even if he got sober the cravings will probably never go away.
He came in to David’s office with a small hope that maybe his life could be better. He had lost several marriages due to his drinking. He would drink on the job and then come home and finish a complete bottle of vodka almost every night.
He was asleep by nine and up at six to put another hard day of work in. Throughout the day be thinking about the relief he would feel once he was back home and able to “relax and drink myself to sleep”.
He surrounded himself with friends that drank almost as much as he did. As we looked back at his family history, which was filled with alcoholics, he believed the naysayers who had told him that he would be an alcoholic for life. Until he met David.
“I remember the first day Harvey came in. He was dejected yes. He had lost almost all hope. But he was willing to commit 90 straight days to work in our program with holistic addiction recovery. When he went to leave the first day he turned and said to me that I had not mentioned anything about drinking. Was it OK if he drink that night? I turned and looked and said what do you think is the best move for you? He started laughing as he left the room yelling behind him that he shouldn’t be paying for a program of recovery and then go home and drink. I thought now there’s a wise man.”
The first few weeks were not easy. His cravings were intense. David put him on a series of amino acid supplementation to help with the cravings. He introduced Harvey to the world of relaxation techniques, CDs on meditation, emotional journaling techniques for him to access the feelings of fear that arise when someone is not going to have their best friend, alcohol, with them throughout the day.
Harvey reported to David every day of the week. He shared with David and his feelings, boredom, restlessness, anxiety, depression and anger that he couldn’t have just one or two drinks to relax.
David had asked him to do a brief past history of how many times he had tried to drink moderately… Only to fall back into the black pit of alcoholism.
In his own writing for the first time in 30 years, Harvey had sketched out the 1000 times that he had tried to be a moderate drinker that had never worked .
At the end of the third month he was a fully changed man, someone even he didn’t recognize. He was falling asleep without a drink. He was waking up at 4 AM to take walks around the neighborhood with his dog. He was energized. He was more social. He was excited about living a brand-new life.
Two of his former wives actually got back in touch with him when they found out he had stopped drinking, to support him in his sobriety . He found, and quite the surprise to himself, that there were a lot of people even in his neighborhood who were sober. Some had never drank at all, who were an absolute blast to be around.
At work he was instantly recognized for his new level of energy and commitment. He received a promotion without even asking for it.
When he came back in to see David after being on his own for about six months, even David said he barely recognized him. The puffiness in his face, the dark circles underneath his eyes, his poor body language had all radically changed .
Harvey’s attitude has improved dramatically, simply by removing alcohol from his life.
For the past 30+ years he had not gone a day without drinking… And here he was 180 days later without a drop of alcohol and finding a new breath of life.
“Harvey has found to be true what so many people struggle with. A sober life can be dynamic, filled with passion, joy and fun. And you do not have to believe the nonsense that the struggle will continue for the rest of your life. When you apply yourself to a full, deep level of holistic addiction recovery, the struggle ends. Inner peace remains. And a new lift on life is evident.” Essel says.
If you need help, reach out to David today at http://davidessel.com/holistic-addiction-recovery/