Healing Stories: Change Your Life – Courageous People Do These Three Steps Daily

Change Your Life – Courageous People Do These Three Steps Daily

Courage is a rarity these days. Unless we’re talking about the military, or volunteers that are going deep into the inner city slums to try to help people who have not figured out how to help themselves.

But what about the rest of us? How courageous are we all really?

For the past 28 years, number one best-selling author, counselor and life coach David Essel has been helping people to become more courageous in life. Minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.

Here are the three top keys that he believes we all need to follow if we want to lead a more courageous life.

“Courageous people are few and far between in the world today. People who are living with passion. Honesty. Vulnerability. There just aren’t many around anymore.

How about you? If I was sitting in front of you today would you tell me that you’re a courageous person or not?

In the past 28 years, I’ve worked with thousands of super courageous people, and from my work with these individuals, I have taken the three most important keys that they follow in order to live an extraordinary life.

Number One. Courageous people have stopped making excuses in life. They own their own foibles and walk every day into the uncomfortable.

But what does that really mean?

I was working with a client the other day in our weight-loss program that we have lead for the past 28 years. When I mentioned to her that there were going to be certain foods that she would not be able to eat and also certain foods that she had to limit her intake with. She asked me how does she stop after eating one protein bar when she normally eats three or four in a row?

My answer? That she had to be courageous. That after one protein bar she had to put the rest away. She had to look in the mirror and pull that inner courage out onto the table and use it to decrease her desire to overeat. Sound easy? It’s not. It’s simple, but not easy.

Courageous people do this every day. They choose not to drink. They choose not to smoke. They choose not to belittle people. They choose not to belittle themselves. They choose to get up early in the morning, when they would rather sleep in, to get to the gym.

After reading this how courageous are you really?

Number Two. Courageous people ask for help. I tell all my clients every day that if you could’ve achieved your huge goal with weight loss, sobriety, financial freedom, or love on your own, you would’ve done it by now. But it’s obviously not working. The fact that you reached out to me for help tells me that you’re an incredibly courageous person.

But in order to be courageous and ask for help we must be vulnerable. We must be open. We must be honest. Courageous people are vulnerable, open and honest. They ask for help. Every day. Day after day. Until they achieve the biggest goals in their life. They know they’ll never do it on their own.

Number Three. Courageous people forgive those that have hurt them, not for the person who was the aggressor, but for their own inner peace.

Over the years I’ve interviewed so many people that have forgiven the killer of a family member, or someone who cheated on them, or someone who stole money from them.

In my note new book, “focus!”, I write about how I had to forgive a woman who stole $20,000 from me. Was I being courageous in my willingness to forgive her? Hell yes! I didn’t want to, in all honesty I didn’t want to forgive her. But I eventually did, so that I could have inner peace and quit carrying around the bitterness in my heart.

Reread the above three keys. And then answer this question for yourself, how courageous am I today?

And when you’re ready, really ready to live the most courageous life of your dreams, reach out and ask someone for help. That will be the day you truly walk down the steps of courage.”

David Essel’s work is endorsed by celebrities like the late Wayne Dyer and Jenny McCarthy, who says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.”

David accepts new clients from around the world every week to work with one on one via phone or Skype, contact him at www.davidessel.com