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Healing Stories: From Alcoholism to Full Sobriety

Healing Stories: Is Sobriety for Everyone?

Once an alcoholic always an alcoholic. Statements like these are a 100% fabrication of the truth.

For the past 24 years, counselor, life coach and number one best-selling author David Essel has seen hundreds of individuals, who were told that they would never get sober for life, accomplish exactly that goal. And you can too .

One of his most powerful stories that he tells at lectures is the recovery of a client named Harvey. Harvey came to David on his knees, rock bottom for the one hundredth time.

He had been told by various professionals that it really wasn’t his fault that he was an alcoholic. He had the genetic link which meant he was doomed for life. They tried to tell him that there were various medications he could take to help cut his cravings but that at the level he had been drinking for as long as he had been drinking the opportunity for sobriety was almost nil.

There are even professional organizations, who’s intention it is to help people get sober, that will pass the same absolute lies that the professionals told Harvey… In meetings they would tell him that once you’re an alcoholic you always are. That even if he got sober the cravings will probably never go away.

He came in to David’s office with a small hope that maybe his life could be better. He had lost several marriages due to his drinking. He would drink on the job and then come home and finish a complete bottle of vodka almost every night.

He was asleep by nine and up at six to put another hard day of work in. Throughout the day be thinking about the relief he would feel once he was back home and able to “relax and drink myself to sleep”.

He surrounded himself with friends that drank almost as much as he did. As we looked back at his family history, which was filled with alcoholics, he believed the naysayers who had told him that he would be an alcoholic for life. Until he met David.

“I remember the first day Harvey came in. He was dejected yes. He had lost almost all hope. But he was willing to commit 90 straight days to work in our program with holistic addiction recovery. When he went to leave the first day he turned and said to me that I had not mentioned anything about drinking. Was it OK if he drink that night? I turned and looked and said what do you think is the best move for you? He started laughing as he left the room yelling behind him that he shouldn’t be paying for a program of recovery and then go home and drink. I thought now there’s a wise man.”

The first few weeks were not easy. His cravings were intense. David put him on a series of amino acid supplementation to help with the cravings. He introduced Harvey to the world of relaxation techniques, CDs on meditation, emotional journaling techniques for him to access the feelings of fear that arise when someone is not going to have their best friend, alcohol, with them throughout the day.

Harvey reported to David every day of the week. He shared with David and  his feelings, boredom, restlessness, anxiety, depression and anger that he couldn’t have just one or two drinks to relax.

David had asked him to do a brief past history of how many times he had tried to drink moderately… Only to fall back into the black pit of alcoholism.

In his own writing for the first time in 30 years, Harvey had sketched out the 1000 times that he had tried to be a moderate drinker that had never worked .

At the end of the third month he was a fully changed man, someone even he didn’t recognize. He was falling asleep without a drink. He was waking up at 4 AM to take walks around the neighborhood with his dog. He was energized. He was more social. He was excited about living a brand-new life.

Two of his former wives actually got back in touch with him when they found out he had stopped drinking, to support him in his sobriety . He found, and quite the surprise to himself, that there were a lot of people even in his neighborhood who were sober. Some had never drank at all, who were an absolute blast to be around.

At work he was instantly recognized for his new level of energy and commitment. He received a promotion without even asking for it.

When he came back in to see David after being on his own for about six months, even David said he barely recognized him. The puffiness in his face, the dark circles underneath his eyes, his poor body language had all radically changed .

Harvey’s attitude has improved dramatically, simply by removing alcohol from his life.

For the past 30+ years he had not gone a day without drinking… And here he was 180 days later without a drop of alcohol and finding a new breath of life.

“Harvey has found to be true what so many people struggle with. A sober life can be dynamic, filled with passion, joy and fun. And you do not have to believe the nonsense that the struggle will continue for the rest of your life. When you apply yourself to a full, deep level of holistic addiction recovery, the struggle ends. Inner peace remains. And a new lift on life is evident.” Essel says.

If you need help, reach out to David today at http://davidessel.com/holistic-addiction-recovery/

 

ALCOHOLISM…HANGOVER? COULD WE STILL BE “SOCIAL DRINKERS”?

Hangover? We have just left the world of social drinking.

Alcoholism…

For more than 20 years, I was a highly functioning alcoholic. A serious alcoholic, but highly functioning.

Even though I helped other people get sober and, traveled the world as an international speaker, was on national radio and TV and was writing books… there is no doubt that I was an alcoholic.

If you find yourself one day a week one day a month one day every six months waking up with a hangover we have to tell the truth…A hangover is the result of consuming more alcohol than your body can possibly handle. Alcohol is a poison. In small amounts it’s not detrimental, but we’re talking like one drink per day…for women. For men? No more than two drinks per day.

And even though those are guidelines, there are some women and men that if they have one or two drinks they wake up the next day feeling fatigued. Not themselves.

Others like myself, when I was at the height of my drinking, I could drink easily a bottle to two bottles of wine a night, wake up in the morning shake it off, or so I thought I was, and work really hard for 10 or 12 hours every day.

But I was fooling myself. I was in complete denial. I was justifying and rationalizing my addiction. Do you do the same thing?

For me, being a very successful businessman, meant drinking with business associates. It meant going out to bars to seal deals. It meant going to parties after I just got off stage to fit in with everyone else.

About 33% of Americans struggle with alcohol. Many struggle in silence. They become isolated drinkers. Others struggle in public. They are involved in society, looking for any opportunity as an excuse to drink with others.

Some of you who read this post will be pissed off. Why is David Essel writing about alcoholism, and saying that I might be an alcoholic just because I had a hangover on New Year’s Day?

Very few people who have hangovers only have them once a year. So we get really good with denial. Really good with justifying the amount we drink and what we drink.

I have helped thousands of men and women get sober, some who were bartenders or waiters and waitresses…and they went back to work in the environment where alcohol flows freely every day.

The number one step that we have to take is to get out of denial. And that’s a big damn step to take. No one wants to be without alcohol, if you use it as a social lubricant, as a way to relax, as a way to go to sleep, as a way to deal with boredom, or anger, or insecurity.

I used to use alcohol for every reason imaginable to man. Every statement in the above paragraph, was open territory for me to have that first glass of wine. As the years moved on I loved to drink in solitude. After my very last counseling and coaching session at 8 PM, I would walk in the door and immediately open that first bottle of wine. I deserved it. I work hard. I make a lot of money, I should be able to do whatever the hell I want.

Great attitude right? Total denial.

Let me repeat this because for many of us it sucks to hear it, even though it’s true. Whenever we wake up feeling tired, or with a hangover after night of drinking, we are no longer a social drinker. We are either in the stages of dependency or alcoholism.

Whether you are dependent upon alcohol or a full blown alcoholic, which has nothing to do with how much money you make, how many kids you have, how long you been married, or what your astrological sign is… If you need alcohol to relax or to deal with emotions in life you are an alcoholic.

The great news? If people like myself can recover and be totally recovered from alcohol you can as well.

I don’t believe in the statement that once you’re in alcoholic you’re an alcoholic for life. What a bunch of crap. Oh my god there’s so many statements from the 40s 50s and 60s that people still spout over and over and over again that have no validity. If you want to fully recover from alcohol you can. You’re not an alcoholic for life. Drop that crap right outside your door and kick it to the curb.

On the other hand, if you’re tired of being tired, or tired of getting into arguments with your partner, or tired of having to have a drink before you go to the party or out to dinner. Or if you’re tired in general, and you don’t make it to the gym, maybe you’ve gained weight, maybe you’re impatient, contact me.

I don’t judge anyone. My work in this world is to help people to reach their highest potential in life. For me and millions of other people like me, musicians, rock stars, actresses, actors, sports stars, and every day people sobriety is not only possible it’s freaking amazing!

There is no better time than right now to get sober. Make 2017 the Year of Sobriety. Your attitude will improve. Your health will improve. Believe it or not your sleep will improve. Your relationships will improve. Your confidence will improve. Your self-esteem will improve. You will begin to become the very best version of yourself that you ever imagined possible.

I know it because I’m living proof myself as well as with 1000 other people that I’ve helped get sober. Some of whom you can even read their short stories on my website.

Don’t delay. Don’t wait. Do it for yourself, your family, your friends, your career, your health, relationships.

You are worth it. Prove it.

Love David

If you want help, text my office at 941.266.7676 or visit my website and read about the programs we have. Sobriety is a gift that you give yourself. You are worth it.