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Healing Stories: Counselor Faces Huge Anxiety in the Face of Hurricane Irma

Healing Stories: Counselor Faces Huge Anxiety in the Face of Hurricane Irma

It’s not often that we hear the gut wrenching truth from a mental health professional about facing their own anxiety in one of the biggest storms in life.

But that’s what is one of many things that separates David Essel, A number one best-selling author, counselor, life coach and radio host from so many other individuals in this world… Is that he’s willing to share his vulnerable moments as well as his powerful ones.

David is still suffering from the effects of hurricane Irma as this article is being written. He finally found a hotel to stay in after four nights of sleeping in a home without electricity and temperatures reaching 100° every evening. David shares what he believes to be the most important keys in dealing with anxiety in life.

“I’ve been through several hurricanes as I’ve lived in Florida for the last 40 years and everyone of them brings a different type of anxiety. Fear. Unsettledness. But the most recent one, hurricane Irma, affected me in a way I had never experienced it before.

The massive size of the hurricane was one thing that we had to all contend with, and as the news reports leading up to the striking of this hurricane became more prevalent, it was obvious this could be the worst ever. Some people were saying it was four or five times the size of hurricane Andrew that absolutely destroyed many communities around Miami Florida.

I live on the West Coast of Florida, Fort Myers Florida, and we weren’t sure if we are going to get a direct hit or not. In the beginning of the forecast it looked like it was going to go up the East Coast of Florida… But that was to change quickly.

My home is in a flood zone so I had arranged a hotel not far from where I live to take myself and my dog because they have generators. I figured what better place to be than 3 to 4 stories above the ground in a hotel with generators. But on the day we were supposed to move in, Saturday, they closed the hotel. Now what the hell do I do?

I started calling around to realtor friends to see if anyone had a home that I could rent for even a week or two or a month in case the damage from the hurricane was that bad. But no one could find anything for me to jump into at the last minute.

I decided not to evacuate because I knew I had a safe place in the hotel but I had no idea that safe place would be taken from underneath me.

I started to call friends of mine and found one, John Biffar, who was out of town and said I could stay in his condominium which might be a little safer than my house. So I moved in with my dog and sat down to battle what could be the storm of the century.

For the past seven days I had been planning for this. Plenty of food. Water. Flashlights. Everything I could possibly need if it was going to be an extended stay outside of my house.

But then things started to change on the news. It looked like Irma was taking a direction towards Fort Myers and away from Miami. At about 3 o’clock in the afternoon I lost it. Tears started streaming down my face. I was on the ground floor condominium, not far from a major river, and if we did get a direct hit I was Surely going to be flooded out of here as well.

As tears streamed down my face, I looked down and there was my dog Saint looking up at me, I told him that I was human, I was afraid, and we would make it through somehow.

I know, as a counselor, that the most important thing to do with emotions when we’re feeling them is to actually feel them! So I started writing. Journaling. And then I posted on Facebook, something I never do about my personal life, because I knew it was time to do so. There are millions of other people I’m sure that felt the same way I did, but probably were not going to share it in a public setting.

So I posted a very short note on Facebook that this huge wave of anxiety had just passed through me, tears are streaming down my face, I was feeling the effects of a potential direct hit from the hurricane Irma, and it’s OK. This is what we’re supposed to do. When we feel deep anxiety, depression, rage, resentments, we need to feel them, write about them to help process these emotions out of our body

This is not something that men are taught how to do. Many women refuse to express deep emotions as well. But I knew that by posting this on Facebook not only would I be human, because the fear was real, but I might actually help other people to realize it’s OK for them to go deep into their feelings as well.

The outpouring on Facebook was immediate. Many people posted underneath my post that they “were feeling the same thing and thank you for giving them a voice. Thank you for allowing your emotions to touch ours. We are all in this together.”

And this is what I have based my work on for 27 years now. When people come in and they’re going through a life trauma, one of life’s many big storms, addiction, divorce, bankruptcy, extreme weight gain, I help individuals to process their emotions over and over again instead of hiding them, stuffing them, or pretending they’re not there.

The results is instantaneous but you need to keep processing these emotions with the different tools we use on a daily basis in order for them not to get stuck in our bodies, minds and spirits.

My anxiety was well-founded. We did get a direct hit and by the time Irma hit us thank God she was down to a category 2. But as I write this, nine days later, I have moved to a hotel room with air-conditioning awaiting the power to come back on in my life. Every day I write about what I’m actually feeling, being displaced, I’m uncertain of when I can go home. I will survive, thrive and more, and one of the reasons why is because I’m allowing myself to be human, to feel, to process, to heal.”

***When tragedy hits… Americans come together. It’s what we’ve done since the beginning of time. And today, with the combined tragedy of Hurricane Harvey and Hurricane Irma, is no different. David Essel is a counselor, life coach, best-selling author, radio host and an all faith a minister who has personal experience in the tragedy of hurricanes.

“Unfortunately, I know the devastation of hurricanes on a very personal level. I am now offering, to all of the victims of Hurricane Harvey and Hurricane Irma, 20 minute phone sessions to help alleviate stress, calm nerves, and anything else I can do.” Says David.

Some of the areas David can help are as followed:

1. Anxiety
2. Frustration
3. Depression
4. Anger
5. Sadness
6. Grief
7. Prayer.

As an all faith minister, David can work with people of all spiritual and or religious backgrounds. Nonreligious people: David will help you with your challenges that have nothing to do with prayer, religion, or spirituality.

“Reach out to your friends and family. Ask professionals in your area for help. The only way to get through these difficult times is to have faith, work as a community and to look for solutions to take care of your immediate needs. I hope I can be part of that solution, and will look forward to helping as many people as I can,” says Essel.

Please e-mail Davidʼs office at david@davidessel.com and one of his staff members will set up your time for a one-on-one 20 minute session over the phone at no charge.  See here for more info

For more for Information on David, visit his website www.davidessel.com

Healing Stories: A Transgendered Teen Finds Peace

Healing Stories: A Transgendered Teen Finds Peace

Life is hard. Life is challenging for everyone. And to come to the realization that you may not be connected to the gender or sex that you were born into is an incredibly challenging experience for everyone.

Number one best-selling author, Counselor, life coach and radio host David Essel has a story to share about one teenager he worked with the could open our eyes to the challenges faced by these individuals.

“She came in looking for help because her mom was tired of her depression. Her dad had continued to look the other way and whenever his wife would say I think our girl is struggling with depression he would just give a very simple answer that all teenagers struggle like our girl struggles.

But this young girl, a senior in high school, felt something was amiss her entire life. She had no interest in wearing dresses. She had no interest in being part of girl talk, or a clique, or a gossip group from elementary school through junior high through high school.

She had always felt different. But she couldn’t explain what the difference was. She was drawn to jeans, sneakers, skateboards, fishing, even blowing up glass bottles with firecrackers. Not the normal type of behavior of a young girl according to society.

At our first session she was very quiet, despondent, sullen. I asked just general questions about depression, anxiety, her friends, or lack of friends, and she started to express towards the end of the session a need to talk about something very important. As our time ran out that day, I told her that I would make more time with her next week if she needed more than an hour in our session. Her eyes lit up! She was so excited to come back the next week and said that she wanted to talk about things that were hard to talk about. I told her I was there for her.

The next week we started talking about her depression again. How she didn’t like school and didn’t really want to go to school. The list went on and on.

And then about halfway through the session she looked at me and said, “Mr. David, I’m not a normal girl. I don’t know how to say this other than I am a boy. I’m trapped in a girls body Mr. David, but I am a boy.”

It all made sense in an instant. I was sitting in front of a young transgendered girl who knew she was a boy. Do you know how difficult that would be? To be born of a certain sex and gender and yet know in your heart and soul that that’s not who you are?

Within the next several weeks her attitude improved dramatically. She was actually fun in our sessions. Her mom and dad had contacted me on the phone and asked me what magic I was pulling with their daughter and that she was a totally different girl at home.

They said that she still had depressive episodes, but that 50% of the time she was lighthearted. Something they hadn’t seen in over 10 years.

After several weeks of working together she told her mom and dad that she would be no longer wearing make up. That her real interest, skateboarding, fishing and more we’re going to become a bigger part of her life.

Her parents were upset at first, and when they came in, I talked to them about the potential reality that their daughter was a transgendered youth. I asked them to do research. I pointed them in directions to organizations where they could learn more about this potential reality with their little girl. It was very, very hard for the parents to understand and the father wanted to shut down constantly.

He was withdrawing from his little girl, we could see it in his eyes, and all I could do is encourage him to be open-minded. His daughter could sense a huge shift in him as well and one day in our session she told me that there was nothing she could do about it. “I am born in a woman’s body but I’m a boy and somehow I hope my mom and dad will come to the realization and accept me for who I really am.”

The last time I saw her the depression has lifted almost 100%. She’d become more confident. More grounded. I have shared with her different organizations to join and more experts and professionals to get in contact with so that she could see that this, her new life, could offer her both extreme challenges and yet at the same time inner peace .

I miss working with her. She, on her way to becoming a he, was brave, real, and one of the most lovable individuals I’ve ever met. I hope the world accepts her as she is starting to accepts herself.”

If there is any situation in life, that you need help with, reach out to David at www.davidessel.com. Today is the best day to do so.

Read more stories like this in David’s number one best-selling book

 

IS DEPRESSION CAUSED BY GENETICS? HOLD ON!

Many people, mistakenly believe that depression is caused by genetics. And I understand why. Logically it would seem to make sense, that if your aunt, mother, father and sister suffer from depression we would immediately jump to the conclusion that depression must run in the family and be caused by genetics.

But that is so far from the truth! Our genetics actually is the cause of only a tiny percentage of depression in our country. The main causes of depression have to do with our inability to deal with emotions, or a lack of coping skills in life.

More often than not depression will be caused by emotional or physical abuse when were children or as adults, a feeling that we have lost control of life…love of a love relationship, it could be from the side effects of medication, codependency, our desire to run away from conflict or rocking the boat, death of a loved one, loss of a job, house or even the loss of good friends…

Crucially important in the role of depression is alcohol, smoking, food addiction, drug addiction, these are all outward signs that we are unhappy, possible depressed as we try to self medicate. And many illnesses or injuries can cause depression

When we learn correct coping skills though, we can do so many great things in minimizing the negative affects of depression.

My dad, sister and brother suffered from depression. My aunt did too. I suffered for years with a deep clinical depression. Yet my family and I healed. If, depression in our family, like most other families was genetically based we would never heal…or we would have to be on medication for life.

I have worked with thousands of clients over the last 36 years who struggled with depression and healed. Yes, a tiny percentage of people with depression may be genetically based…but the largest cause would be examples listed above. The major problem that occurs when we so quickly tell people that their depression is genetic, is that they give up looking for ways to heal themselves. And why should they since they’ve been told it’s in their genes?

Enough of the old school thought process that is outdated and dangerous for many people to be told.

There is great help available!

If you need help on these coping skills, email us at talkdavid@aol.com and I would love to spend 15 minutes on the phone with you at no charge whatsoever, helping you to get to the root cause of depression and helping to heal that very condition.

Love, David

About David Essel, M.S.

“David Essel’s destiny is to help you become more alive in every area of your life.” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

David Essel, Positive Thinking Will NEVER Change Your Life… But This Book Will, motivational speaker, coaching and mentoring career counselor, confidence, how to be confident, relationship questions, best motivational speakers, career path, healthy relationships, best way to lose weight, self confidence, money advice, addict, relationships, career assessment, life advice.

David Essel, M.S., for 30 years, has been considered one of the leading experts in the field of personal growth.

He is a #1 Best Selling Author of 9 books, a TV/Radio Host, Master Business, Relationship &

Success Coach, Inspirational Speaker, Addiction Recovery Coach and an All Faiths Minister.

His newest #1 Best selling book is : “Positive Thinking Will NEVER Change Your Life… BUT THIS BOOK WILL! The Myth of Positive Thinking, THE REALITY OF SUCCESS”

Master Business, Relationship, and Success Coach, TV/Radio Host, Author of 9 Books, Inspirational Speaker

David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” and “The #1 Life Coach in the USA.” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine.

He parlayed this worldwide reputation into the world of athletes and athletics after getting his Master’s Degree in Fitness Management, where his emphasis on sport psychology led him to work as the “Mental Success Counselor” for basketball and tennis players from around the USA.

In 1990, a chance encounter with an athletic client who desired a life free of resentments against her former husband, led him deeply into the world of relationship work, with both singles and couples.

That same year he became one of the first nationally recognized Master Life Coaches in the USA, as his work was featured weekly on national radio and television shows. In 1996 David created Life Coach Universe, a Life Coach Certification organization that has certified individuals wanting to make a difference in this world from across the USA, Spain, Bermuda, and the Cayman Islands.

For 25 years, David’s nationally syndicated radio talk show, ” David Essel Alive!” has been heard via Westwood One , XM Satellite Radio and Premiere Radio/ Clear Channel Communications on iHeart Radio. David now hosts 2 nationally syndicated radio shows heard every Saturday morning and evening.

His national work as a motivational segment reporter and host in television began in 1988 with WWOR-TV, then Fox TV’s “Good Day New York” as well as Lifetime Television’s “The Image Workshop”, and the popular Fox TV show “The Morning Blend”.

David has helped thousands of people from around the world achieve their greatest goals in every area of life. From doubling and even tripling their income, to freedom from addictions, preparation for deep love, getting the body they’ve always wanted, releasing long held negative attitudes, overcoming deep depression and anxiety, overcoming emotional and sexual abuse, changing careers or creating dramatic success as business owners, public speaking, as well as helping couples recover from affairs and creating a deep personal connection with God or one’s higher power. David is a renowned expert in the field of co-dependency, where he has helped thousands of people from around the world shatter the “largest addiction known to man.”

There are no topics or circumstances David has not encountered, and helped people overcome, over the past 30 years.

His mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life.

Learn more about David and what he does right here http://davidessel.com/

Different Types of Depression and What to do!

Did you know there are several different types of depression? David explains what this means and how to help deal with it!

Watch this super short FOX4 TV video to see what we mean…

Depression, suicide, addiction = co-dependency?

This video will shock a lot of people.

Robin Williams. David Essel. And millions of others suffer from co-dependency, which easily is one of the most powerful  causes of our spiral down in life.

Watch the video to see what I mean.

Love David, contact me if you need help, 941 266 7676

Depression, Suicide, Robin Williams, and you, me.

Suicide… Suicide………….. Like millions of other people…… I walk to the brink of suicide in 1990…… The pain was so intense of living life, of addiction, that I knew there was no other way out.… I bought the materials, pick the day,…… I was living in this amazing Beachhouse directly on the water, it seems to everyone that I have life By the balls…… Actually it was the other way around…… My depression, clinical deep outrageous depression, had me by the balls. I was screaming for help, all inside.…… No one could ever understand. No one would ever understand…… By looking at my outside world, the home, the car, the girlfriends….The Travel…… Both national and international put me on the edge of recognition….the national television segment in New York City, while I lived in Florida, brought great awareness to my work. ….My passion for helping others, could not make up for the void inside that was impossible to fill …… On the day it was to happen, I don’t know why I didn’t do it… It was planned… The execution was here…. and instead for some reason, I called out for help. The hardest call in the world…… Dialing that number of a psychiatrist screaming into his assistants phone…… That I don’t care that he’s booked for three months I have to be in his office today…. how do I find him? The damn phone book. I picked the name and called…… I do not judge anyone who takes their life, because I don’t know the bigger picture. None of us do…. since that time I’ve worked with thousands of people in deep clinical depression…… Severe emotional disorders…… Outrageous addictions…… And all I can say is I sit with them in peace,…… And I understand pain…… As Robin leaves us, he’s never gone. He will continue to inspire for the rest of eternity. And maybe, just maybe, the notoriety that depression and the whole world of mental health will receive from his passing, will open new eyes to other people that are about to do the same thing today. Or tomorrow. Or the next tomorrow. And just maybe this is God’s blessing. I don’t know this for sure, but I do believe it for sure. I love you, if you’re struggling contact me or anyone else to get help. I will sit and be present with you. Just like the thousands of other professionals in this world to do this. You are more loved than you could ever imagine. David.