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Healing Stories: Procrastination – The Number One Killer of Dreams

Healing Stories: Procrastination – The Number One Killer of Dreams

Many times when people are going after a major goal in life, like losing weight, making more money, saving a relationship, getting closer to God, breaking an addiction or negative attitude, we will come up with all kinds of excuses of why we haven’t accomplished his goal yet.

People will say “I don’t have the time… It’s my genetics… It’s the economy… It’s my partner… God is not listening to me…”

But, there is a similarity amongst all of the excuses and for the most part, that similarity is called procrastination. It is the number one killer of all dreams.

Number one best-selling author, counselor and life coach David Essel has been helping people for over 28 years shatter procrastination, and those who do go on to achieve huge results in life.

“I know procrastination like the back of my hand. It’s the thing that has kept me back in life even though I’m a counselor, life coach and number one best-selling author, it still is the one thing that can rear its ugly head and hold me back from going after my next goal. In the beginning, it was the number one thing that kept me from getting sober, asking for help with my finances as well as relationships.

Because of my own struggles with procrastination, I draw thousands of people to my work because they sense I may know what I’m talking about. Unfortunately, I have a lot of experience with procrastination.

But most people won’t admit they’re procrastinators. They will blame everything on everyone else around them for the reasons they’re not living the life of their dreams, instead of looking in the mirror and saying “it’s you that’s the problem!”

Here are my four top key tips in order to shatter procrastination forever:

Number one. Admit it! Look in the mirror and admit the fact that you’ve procrastinated in putting 100% effort into your goals. If you can’t do step one just bypass the rest of this article because there’s nothing that’s going to help you until you admit that you are the problem.

Number two. With the help of a professional counselor, therapist, life coach or minister… Get to the bottom of why you procrastinate.

This is crucial. Do not pass this step or once again you’re going to fall back into the trap of procrastination

You see, you can’t just use extreme willpower to shatter procrastination. You have to get to the core of why we procrastinate, understand it logically, and then will power will definitely be needed.

As an example, are you following in the footsteps of your mom or dad who were great procrastinators? Or, are you rebellion against mom and dad because they were always on time, did what they said, and you’re sort of that rebel in the family that wants to do things your own way?

Or are you following the footsteps of an older brother or sister? A best friend in high school or college? You see, most of the people who procrastinate greatly have been taught to do this. Someone they know has done it regularly, and they’re just falling into the trap of following a role model, who may have had great intentions, but procrastinated just the same.

Number three. White down the day that you will begin to shatter your procrastination, and make sure it’s not more than 30 days from today.

This is crucial! If you don’t pick a day that you’re going to quit smoking, hire a financial planner, hire a personal trainer or whatever the goal is… You will continue to put it off and off and off.

I did this for years upon years upon years. Then one day I woke up in the morning, called a treatment center and booked my 30 day stay. I did the intake forms over the phone. I made a down payment so that I couldn’t back out. I had been talking about getting sober for years but until I took this action step and invested money, nothing was changing. From that day forward? It was the greatest move I ever made. Shattering my own procrastination.

Number four. Create a reward for once you accomplish your goal. Now hold on a second! This doesn’t mean that if you lose 50 pounds you’re going to allow yourself to go to an all-you-can-eat seafood buffet!

Or if you save a certain amount of money, that you’re going to go on vacation. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot.

Your reward might be going to a weekend motivational workshop, taking a local class on photography, hiring a personal trainer because you’ve been in the gym on your own for 90 days and lost 25 pounds. Do you see where I’m going?

Procrastination kills more dreams than a lack of money and even a lack of talent. If you’re serious look in the mirror, follow the above steps and shatter procrastination forever. I know you can do it. Hell if I can, after struggling in the world of addiction for over 25 years, I know you can too. I’m on your side.”

If you need help shattering your levels of procrastination, David Essel has been helping thousands of people since 1990 to figure out a way to be successful once and forever. Email him directly at www.davidessel.com

Healing Stories: Counseling – Did 2017 Exhaust You? Let’s get healthy for 2018 now

Healing Stories: Counseling – Did 2017 Exhaust You? Let’s get healthy for 2018 now.

The year 2017 will go down as one of the most stressful ones that many of us will ever remember.

Ethnic cleansing near Bangladesh. Massacre in Las Vegas. Hurricane destroys Puerto Rico and Saint Maarten. Hurricanes that severely damaged Houston and Florida.

And by now many people are both emotionally and physically exhausted.

Number one best-selling author, counselor, life coach and radio host David Essel says there’s a lot we can do starting right now if we want to 2018 to be a powerful year for us all.

David’s 2 keys to letting go of the past and preparing for the future:

Number one. ” I think the most important place to begin,n as we round out 2017 and go into 2018, is to try our very best and feel the emotions surrounding all the tragedies in order to let them go. This might sound like a strange step number one but without feeling the depth of our sadness, grief, anger and maybe even rage… it will get stuck in our bodies somewhere.

Several of my clients in the last several months have come in complaining deeply about the atrocities in the world. They’re angry. But unfortunately, prior to doing work together, they vented the rage and anger on social media. At their family. Even their pets, without taking responsibility to process these emotions inside. The most effective way to begin to process emotions so that we can let them go is in the form of writing.

If we write about the sadness, rage, anger, that has occurred at any of the above mentioned tragedies, we begin to release its grip on us.

After this step, we can go into another form of therapy which is being of service in our community. It does very little to continue to complain about the unfairness in life, without actually trying to do something positive about it.

Number two. Look deeply at your self-care, or lack of it. It’s very normal with the way we are bombarded by the media, social media, radio, television, the internet like blogs etc. to forget about the need to take care of ourselves.

What are you doing for yourself physically? Mentally? Spiritually? Relationship wise? Are you involved in an exercise program? Yoga? Meditation? As I mentioned above service in your community?

Several of my clients in the last 60 days of our work together have noticed that they’re drinking much more on a regular basis. Others have noticed they’ve gained 25 pounds as they continue to shovel sugar down their throats as a way to mask the emotions that they’re feeling.

In other words, both of these are poor emotional coping skills. Self-care is the exact opposite.”

For more information of how David can help you one on one to deal with the tragedies of life, visit his website at www.davidessel.com

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If you are working with a Life Coach you must know this critical information: their true role is to ask questions and give assignments. Period.

Ask questions and give assignments.

When I began my work counseling athletes and fitness experts 30 years ago, we asked a lot of questions but never gave assignments, or homework.

In 1990, when I became one of the founding fathers of the world of Life Coaches we changed everything by giving our clients homework to do every week.

Why? Because 90% of a clients success will be created by their work outside of the 1 hour weekly session.

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We have been certifying people since 1996 in the world of general life coaching, as well as the specific fields of love and relationships, addiction recovery, spirituality, public speaking and business coaching.

Love, david