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Healing Stories: Her Six-Year-Old Son Was Murdered. Then she did this.

Healing Stories: Forgiveness…Her Six-Year-Old Son Was Murdered. Then she did this.

No one can imagine what it would feel like to find out that their six-year-old child had been murdered. And, it is something we would not wish on anyone.

The feelings of rage, sadness, anger and possibly even guilt would be running through anyone’s brain in their attempt to deal with such a tragedy.

Number one best-selling author, counselor, life coach and radio host David Essel has interviewed parents from around the United States of America who have lost a child. And in each of the interviews it’s an incredibly tragic event that some never find their way to totally deal with.

Addiction can take over as a short-term way to submerge the emotions around losing a child. Some hold onto bitterness for the rest of their lives. And then there are others who lead the way to help us transform this terrible experience into something that has meaning in their lives.

David shares a story here today that gives all individuals, who have lost a loved one, an opportunity to learn how to move forward with grace, power and compassion.

“I remember the first time I talked to Scarlett Lewis who had lost her son just a few months before in the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre. I had no idea how to even begin the interview I was about to do with Scarlett on my national radio show.

I mean, how do you start out such an in-depth interview with someone who eight months before had lost her young son to a murderer? I was so concerned that I would say the wrong thing. That I would embarrass myself or her. Or that I would put her on the hot seat, something I never intend to do with any of my guests.

I sat and wondered… And then when I looked up I saw that I was going to be on the air in 30 seconds. After introducing Scarlett I immediately asked her a question that I thought I would probably get to later on in the show. “Have you even thought about forgiving the killer of your child? Is that something you could even ever do?”

That question was guided to me by spirit if you will. It wasn’t something I had planned. But the interview started out with a bang. And it was one of the most incredible interviews I’ve ever done in 27 years as a host of a talk radio show.

Scarlett answered right away that she was about 75% of the way to forgiving Adam Lanza completely. I was shocked. I couldn’t believe it. How could she already, only eight months after the killing of her son, be that far advanced in regards to forgiving the killer?

Scarlett shared with me that it was an incredibly difficult eight months to say the least. But she learned early on through her counseling, and a variety of modalities from journaling, to emotional freedom technique, to a healing technique called EMDR, that if she didn’t go in and feel those deep feelings of anger, sadness, depression, and everything else associated with such an event, that she would never heal.

So she got to work. Whenever she woke up in the morning and felt that pain in her stomach she would start to journal her feelings and emotions surrounding anger, rage and more.

She never stopped doing the work. She didn’t shy away when the counseling or the program she was in became difficult. She kept moving forward. Even on the days she didn’t want to.

I have had the blessing to interview Scarlett every year since the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre, and every year she astounds me even more. The last time I had invited her to be a part of a major motivational seminar I was leading, she joined me and the audience via phone, and shared at that time that she was over 90% on her way to fully forgiving the killer of her child.

During the seminar, when someone asked what was her motivation to continue to work so hard to forgive someone who killed her son, Scarlet answered immediately, “He may have killed my young son Jesse but through my path of forgiveness I am guaranteeing that he will not take the rest of my life or my other son JT’s in the process. As I have continued to forgive him I’ve become free and able to do the work that I’m here to do.”

And what is that work that Scarlett Lewis is destined to do? She is a major leader in the world of forgiveness. She is a healer. She is taking this tragic event and now travels all over the world talking to small and large audiences alike about the path of forgiveness. The benefits of forgiveness. The trials and tribulations of forgiveness. The hardships of forgiveness. But at the end of everything, she knows that the path has been laid out before her to be a leader in this world. And she’s doing a damn good job doing so.”

If you need help living the life you desire, letting go of past hurts or tragedies, contact David today at www.davidessel.com

Scarlett Lewis, Nurturing Healing Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope & Forgiveness featured today!

“Although we can’t always choose what happens to us, we can always choose how to respond.
Children can learn to choose a loving thought over an angry one. When a child realizes that they have the power to positively impact themselves as well as those around them, it is empowering and perpetuates their positive actions and interactions.” -Scarlett Lewis, Founder of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement and Jesse’s mother

On December 14, 2012, Scarlett Lewis experienced something that no parent should ever have to endure: she lost her son Jesse in an act of unimaginable violence. The day started just like any other, but when a gunman opened fire at Sandy Hook Elementary School, Scarlett’s life changed forever. However, this isn’t a story about a massacre. It’s a story about love and survival. It’s about how to face the impossible, how to find courage when you think you have none, and how to choose love instead of anger, fear, or hatred.

Read Scarlett’s journey in her own words…

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Scarlett Lewis, author, Nurturing Healing Love: A Mother’s Journey of Love and Forgiveness

HERE ARE SCARLETT’S THOUGHTS, SHARED IN DAVID’S NEW BOOK “POSITIVE THINKING WILL NEVER CHANGE YOUR LIFE…BUT THIS BOOK WILL!”

“I have always been a ‘glass half full’ type of person. I believe this has helped my ability to alter my perspective in certain situations to have a more optimistic outlook. When my 6 year old son was murdered in his 1st grade classroom however, positivity was not going to be enough to get me through the trenches of shock, trauma and mourning. Especially when people around me were using positivity in order to avoid being present with me in my pain and to ease their own discomfort. “You had 6 years to love him!” “He is in a much better place!” “God wanted another angel!”

These seemingly supportive statements actually turned me off to positivity during my grieving. There was nothing good about having my son brutally murdered alongside 19 of his classmates, and six teachers and administrators in one of the worst school shootings in US history.

There was no way around the suffering for me. I was experiencing trauma and grief and soon learned that the two are separate and distinct. I was open to many different modalities of treatment and tried them all, from cranial sacral therapy, EMDR, MNRI, Brainspotting, Reiki, massage, hypnosis and traditional talk therapy. I practiced mindfulness, meditation and prayer. I learned that trauma can be treated and you can recover. Grief is a natural consequence of loss and I began to understand that dealing with it would be more of a process than a specific treatment. I learned to lean in to my emotions rather than avoid them and realized this would become a way of life, rather than recuperation. Thus by embracing the pain I uncovered a lot about myself, my limits, values and inner strengths.

The silver lining in tragedy is that it has inspired tremendous growth in me. It is through my journey of pain and suffering that I expanded and gained wisdom, found joy again and even discovered my mission in life! I had originally wanted to go around my grief, over, under, anything but walking directly through the fire

But it was in the pilgrimage that I found salvation. Had I been able to escape or even fast forward through the extreme discomfort I wouldn’t have cultivated the strength that feeds the resilience that allows me to utilize my experience to be instrumental in creating a world-wide movement to choose love.

I have learned that it is suffering that unites humanity, not the other way around. Everyone suffers to some degree. And interestingly, it is those who have suffered that have the courage to be present in my pain. It is through this authentic connection that hearts unite. If we could get from point a to point b without discomfort then there would be no impetus for growth. Progress and maturation come through tribulation thus the key is to embrace hardship, ask what lessons you can learn, and acknowledge this germination period as the process of blossoming!”

To get Scarlett’s book Nurturing Healing Love: A Mother’s Journey of Love and Forgiveness
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To find out more about Scarlett Lewis and the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement Click here
http://www.jesselewischooselove.org/

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Click here to get David’s new book that Scarlett is a part of! Positive Thinking Will NEVER Change Your Life…But This Book Will

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pic_kesslerDavid Kessler, Author of  You Can Heal Your Heart:  Finding Peace After Breakup, Divorce or Death.  We must have a path to heal, to feel, to grieve, to let go after a love affair has ended, or the death of a loved one, before we can be free.  In the space of freedom, we can love again. David will take you down that path, where freedom awaits.

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scarlettScarlett Lewis, Author of Nurturing, Healing, Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness.  WOW.  On December 14, 2012, Scarlett Lewis experienced something that no parent ever should: she lost her son Jesse in an act of unimaginable violence. The day started just like any other, but when a gunman opened fire at Sandy Hook Elementary School, Scarlett’s life changed forever. But this isn’t a story about a massacre. It’s a story about love and survival. It’s about how to face the impossible, how to find courage when you think you have none, and how to choose love instead of anger, fear, or hatred.

Website: www.JesseLewisChooseLove.org
Facebook: Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation
Twitter: @JesseLewisLove

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scarlettScarlett Lewis, Author of Nurturing, Healing, Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness.  “What went wrong during Adam Lanza’s (the young man who murdered Scarlett’s son and others at the Sandy Hook school shooting) time in school?   He was born a normal baby yet his environment (school/parents/doctors, etc.) helped cultivate one of the worst mass murderers in US history.  We each have to take responsibility for ourselves to lead compassionate lives and to serve others and in doing so serve ourselves.”

Website: www.JesseLewisChooseLove.org
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hilaryjamronHilary Jamron, Author of Surrealistic Trials:  Surviving My Life After Death.  At age eighteen, Hilary Jamron died of a drug overdose, leaving her in a comatose, rigid body with no hope of recovery according to medical experts. In her death and comatose state, Hilary had traveled to the Other Side. When she died, part of her soul refused to come back. That part of her higher self chose to remain where peace and simplicity reign, forever with her angel, Mary.  Upon regaining consciousness, she was steadfastly sure of herself and her direction. She had never given up in life before and she refused to give up now. She also recognized that on some level she was different now.

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scarlettScarlett Lewis, Author of Nurturing, Healing, Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness.  Scarlett Lewis is the mother of 6 year old Jesse Lewis who was shot and killed on December 14, 2012 at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut. We are so excited to have Scarlett back on to share how her work in the world of forgiveness is being shared with prison inmates, and estranged family members with outstanding success!

Website: www.JesseLewisChooseLove.org
Facebook: Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation
Twitter: @JesseLewisLove