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Healing Stories: Persistence – Never give up! It took me 21 years to get this…

Healing Stories: Persistence – Never give up! It took me 21 years to get this…

In our current world instant gratification is everything. It seems that if we don’t get what we want out of love, a weight loss program, a financial goal, within a very short period of time many of us just give up. And it was not always like this. If we look back to even 50 years ago it seemed the people had a hell of a lot more persistence and determination than we do today.

Number one best-selling author, counselor, life coach and radio host David Essel has helped thousands of people over the last 27 years understand the power of persistence.

It’s not sexy.  It’s not what many people want to hear. But if we can hold onto the power of discipline, persistence, and dedication so many of our goals are achievable, it just might not be on the timeline we had hoped.

Below is a story that David shares, about one area of his career, that took him 21 years of dedication to accomplish. If you’re willing to fight for your goals you can achieve almost anything.

“As a kid I was a jock. An athlete. All the way through college. I was encouraged along the way to continue to follow the world of athletics, after my playing days were done, by becoming a professional in the world of health and fitness and then working with athletes in the world of mental fitness and sports psychology.

Around 1990 I hit a major block. I went into a deep depression that was partially caused by my addiction to alcohol and drugs.

And even though I was very successful in the world of motivation, health and everything that would be on the opposite side of alcohol and drugs, I had fallen into the trap of using substances to try to deal with the ups and downs in life instead of learning how to deal with the ups and downs of life.

It was during this year that I started to write about emotions. For some reason they came out in poems and other forms of free style writing.

A friend came to visit one day and while I was in the shower she started reading through one of my many folders filled with these writings about loss, addiction, fear, insecurity and more.

When I came out of the shower she was holding this folder and looked up at me with tears in her eyes. “David, this needs to become a book. These are not just your feelings. Everyone could benefit by reading this because we all go through this in various stages of life, the stress, you’re writing about in this book.”

Book? I wasn’t talented enough to write a book were the first thoughts that went through my mind.

But I continued to write. Within another couple of years I had over 300 writings that I minimized down to 150 of my best writings. I decided to find a publisher to see if I could make this a success.

Within a short period of time I found a small publisher in the Northeast that loved the book . They took it on. Just before the book was going to be published they went bankrupt. I got the manuscript back with a note saying sorry we wanted to help you but we just went out of business.

This was my introduction in the world of writing. Oh my Lord, I was devastated. But I persevered and found out about the world of self publishing and in 1996 my first book  “Phoenix Soul: One Man’s Search for Love & Inner Peace” was published.

I thought for sure it was going to be a number one bestseller. And while we did really well with sales we came nowhere near getting any national recognition like that.

We did get some huge endorsements from people like the actress Jenna Elfman, which obviously helped put me on the map as a writer, but it wasn’t what I had intended. I wanted a number one best-selling book.

I continued to write and release more books over the next 21 years. Every book I released, all nine of them, I envisioned to be a number one bestseller. I invested so much time, money and effort to no avail. The books coming out were doing OK with sales but none of them hitting the level I had envisioned 21 years earlier.

And this is the story of discipline, perseverance, persistence. It doesn’t guarantee that you’re going to be super successful but without these three attributes we don’t have a chance to change our lives or the lives of others around us.

And finally, after writing nine books and taking 20 years plus to get the nine books out, we hit a number one bestseller!

That book “Positive Thinking Will Never Change Your Life But This Book Will… The myth of positive thinking, the reality of success” took off and created the end result of all of my hard work, dreaming, discipline, persistence and more.

This is been such a huge lesson for me in life in general. I can be very impatient. How about you? With your weight loss? Money goals? Love goals? It’s so easy to be so damn impatient.

But the whole message of this story is to never give up. You never know when you’re going to run into that perfect individual for you for a long term relationship if that’s what you want. You never know when it comes to losing weight when you’re finally going to reach that space in life where you decide to give it your all. The same with sobriety.

I have found along the way that one of the greatest aids is to make sure you have accountability professionals, coaches, counselors, publicist, personal trainers, financial advisors… The list goes on and on.

Don’t try to achieve huge goals on your own. No one before us has basically done that. Almost everyone I’ve interviewed who has been super successful in life has had accountability partners and more to help them succeed when they feel like giving up. And was it worth it waiting 21 years to get a number one best-selling book? Hell yes! I wouldn’t believe I’d be saying that 21 years ago, but today I can tell you it’s been amazing.

The new people I’ve met, either readers of the book who emailed us, or even people like celebrity Jenny McCarthy. I never would’ve had a chance to meet and be on her show so many times without a number one best-selling book.

I want you to have the same attitude, persistence, perseverance and discipline. You are worth your goals. And if I can help you, email us through our website www.davidessel.com. It’s never too late. Remember that. It’s never too late.”

 

Why?

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About David, Master Business, Relationship, and Success Coach, TV/Radio Host, Author of 9 Books, Inspirational Speaker

David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” and “The #1 Life Coach in the USA.” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine.

He parlayed this worldwide reputation into the world of athletes and athletics after getting his Master’s Degree in Fitness Management, where his emphasis on sport psychology led him to work as the “Mental Success Counselor” for basketball and tennis players from around the USA.

In 1990, a chance encounter with an athletic client who desired a life free of resentments against her former husband, led him deeply into the world of relationships work, with both singles and couples.

That same year he became one of the first nationally recognized Master Life Coaches in the USA, as his work was featured weekly on national radio and television shows. In 1996 David created Life Coach Universe, a Life Coach Certification organization that has certified individuals wanting to make a difference in this world from across the USA, Spain, Bermuda, and the Cayman Islands.

For 25 years, David’s nationally syndicated radio talk show, ” David Essel Alive!” has been heard via Westwood One , XM Satellite Radio and Premiere Radio/ Clear Channel Communications on iHeart Radio. David now hosts 2 nationally syndicated radio shows heard every Saturday morning and evening.

His national work as a motivational segment reporter and host in television began in 1988 with WWOR-TV, then Fox TV’s “Good Day New York” as well as Lifetime Television’s “The Image Workshop”, and the popular Fox TV show “The Morning Blend”.

David has helped thousands of people from around the world achieve their greatest goals in every area of life. From doubling and even tripling their income, to freedom from addictions, preparation for deep love, repairing relationships, getting the body they’ve always wanted, releasing long held negative attitudes, overcoming deep depression and anxiety, overcoming emotional and sexual abuse, changing careers or creating dramatic success as business owners, public speaking, as well as helping couples recover from affairs and creating a deep personal connection with God or one’s higher power. David is a renowned expert in the field of co-dependency, where he has helped thousands of people from around the world shatter the “largest addiction known to man.”

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Why?

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About David:

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David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” and “The #1 Life Coach in the USA.” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine.

He parlayed this worldwide reputation into the world of athletes and athletics after getting his Master’s Degree in Fitness Management, where his emphasis on sport psychology led him to work as the “Mental Success Counselor” for basketball and tennis players from around the USA.

In 1990, a chance encounter with an athletic client who desired a life free of resentments against her former husband, led him deeply into the world of relationship work, with both singles and couples.

That same year he became one of the first nationally recognized Master Life Coaches in the USA, as his work was featured weekly on national radio and television shows. In 1996 David created Life Coach Universe, a Life Coach Certification organization that has certified individuals wanting to make a difference in this world from across the USA, Spain, Bermuda, and the Cayman Islands.

For 25 years, David’s nationally syndicated radio talk show, ” David Essel Alive!” has been heard via Westwood One , XM Satellite Radio and Premiere Radio/ Clear Channel Communications on iHeart Radio. David now hosts 2 nationally syndicated radio shows heard every Saturday morning and evening.

His national work as a motivational segment reporter and host in television began in 1988 with WWOR-TV, then Fox TV’s “Good Day New York” as well as Lifetime Television’s “The Image Workshop”, and the popular Fox TV show “The Morning Blend”.

David has helped thousands of people from around the world achieve their greatest goals in every area of life. From doubling and even tripling their income, to freedom from addictions, preparation for deep love, getting the body they’ve always wanted, releasing long held negative attitudes, overcoming deep depression and anxiety, overcoming emotional and sexual abuse, changing careers or creating dramatic success as business owners, public speaking, as well as helping couples recover from affairs and creating a deep personal connection with God or one’s higher power. David is a renowned expert in the field of co-dependency, where he has helped thousands of people from around the world shatter the “largest addiction known to man.”

There are no topics or circumstances David has not encountered, and helped people overcome, over the past 30 years.

His mission is to inspire others to reach their own exceptional potential in their business and personal life.

David’s professional presentations on how to lead a passionate and inspiring life have drawn rave reviews from corporations such as Chico’s, Nestlé, and Boeing, media outlets such as FOX TV and Premiere/ iHeart Radio, as well as non-profit organization like the March of Dimes and Unity Church.

Businessperson of the Year Award — The IDEA Association
“The Master of Motivation” — American Fitness Magazine
Highest Rated Speaker in the History of Our Convention — International Exhibitors Association
“Mr. Motivation” — Lifetime Television Network

In 2016, David was honored to be chosen as the Convocation Graduation Speaker , Syracuse University, School of Education.

In 2016, his 9th book, “Positive Thinking will never change your life…but this book will!”, became an Amazon #1 best seller, and his parable on faith and hope, “Rock Star: Finding God’s Purpose for Your Life” also became an Amazon #1 best seller.

David’s work as an Ordained Minister has helped thousands of people who want to deepen their spiritual path and his high energy, inspirational sermons have been given in non-denominational churches as well as the Roman Catholic church.

His own personal recovery from drug and alcohol addiction helped him to create one of the most successful holistic addiction recovery programs in the USA.

For 25 years David has used a variety of healing methods to help people release limiting beliefs regarding money, their bodies, love, addictions, a lack of self identity and more including emotional desensitization, amino acid therapy, Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping, as well as the common practices of journal release, nutritional therapy, meditation, financial freedom methodology, and more.

To get more info see http://www.davidessel.com

 

Increase Your Personal Power? David tells you how…

People with immense personal power are more successful, have higher levels of self confidence and enjoy life more everyday!

Watch this super short video to see how you can increase your personal power right now…

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Sugar, is a drug. Like any drug, it can have extreme negative side affects as we see in our society today.

Watch this super short video, it may surprise you.

 

 

Beating Procrastination, David on Fox TV The Morning Blend

We all procrastinate, and we even procrastinate on our attempts to break procrastination!

Watch this short TV segment as David shares with Fox TV how to beat procrastination.

Co-dependent men, in relationships

YES, there are millions of men right now who are major co-dependents in love relationships.

The saviors, the healers, the white knights and more!

Read this letter from a client, love, david

~~~ Men as codependents in relationships~~~~~

I allow David to repost this…… Three years ago I heard about David’s coaching work a friend of mine, another guy had gone to him for relationship issues and came out way ahead of the game.

I was very skeptical, especially when my friend told me that I was actually a codependent male in a relationship.

So here I am, sitting with David, telling him the story about this one Woman who is just insane. And she really was.

I want to tell him about how she had borrowed a lot of money and never repaid me, how she would lie to me on a regular basis during our one year relationship, how the rest of the world looked at her is beautiful, and wonderful, and so kind and smart…… She was an absolute evil you know what to me.

Of course not all the time! I’ll give her a break

But as I was getting to the end of my rope, I started to look around at the rest of her relationships. They were all filled with chaos and drama. Between her children, her parents, her relatives…… The people she worked with… It was insanity and I was stuck in the middle of it.

So I’m talking to David telling him I can’t believe I attracted this insane person and stayed with her for as long as I did, and he said well honestly that’s the sign of a Codependent man.

I looked at him and shook my head and said oh please don’t feed me that line.

David laughed and smiled and he never got defensive, he just started to go through all the signs of a codependent man in a relationship.

They put up with stuff that they would tell their best friend never to put up with

They look at the insanity and the ups and downs of a person like this and their emotions and they stay even though it’s driving him nuts.

The crazy making, The lies, the borrowing money and never paying it back, seen that the woman is in constant chaos and drama and yet staying with that person… Those are the signs of a codependent man.

The codependent man and wants to heal the woman, he sees her potential, and he just knows if he can get through to her that she will be an amazing partner.

But is David said the joke is on me. You can’t heal someone that doesn’t want to heal.

And as he said million times….Never date someone for their potential, if they’re not good for you right now get the hell out.

I am a codependent man, at least I’m healing, I’ve been working with David for a couple months and I’m feeling a little better, but when I look at my other relationships with women… They were all the same.

I was the healer. I was the Savior.

Man, wake up. Work with this guy. I’ve learned more from him in a couple months that I did with 10 other counselors over the past 15 years.

Marcus, Atlanta Georgia

Should we keep certain people in our lives? Let them go?

There are certain people we need to let go of today.

No, it’s not being mean, rather, it is a healthy move.

Watch this super short video.

Love, david

Be different! Be a Purple Cow!

Let’s make out lives even better than it is today, let’s become purple cows!

Listen to this 60 second Motivational Minute radio spot!

love, david

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Cocaine, God and me.

Many of us have overcome huge addictions in life, and in return we need to be the example so others can see it is possible.

Watch the short video here, ask for help.

love, david