Affairs: Destroy Lives Daily.
Affairs: destroy lives daily.
For those of us that have had affairs on our partners, we can justify, even deny that we’re doing something extremely inappropriate.
We justify it by saying things like we aren’t getting enough sex at home, our partner isn’t paying attention to us emotionally or physically, they make promises they can’t keep… The justifications go on and on.
And other people do it for the adrenaline… To see what they can get away with… To add what they call “excitement“, in their lives.
But what everyone is forgetting, is that whoever is having the affair has totally destroyed their sense of identity, validation, as a decent human being.
They completely lack integrity.
Let me repeat that.
If you’re having an affair right now, or you’re thinking about one, or you’ve had them in the past and you think that they are justified, you have zero integrity!
And what does integrity mean? That we walk our talk. That we’re honest. That we’re grounded. That we wouldn’t do to someone else what we wouldn’t want to be done to ourselves.
Are you completely lacking integrity?
And then what about the person who the affair is made against?
They often walk away extremely damaged, with very low self-confidence, with very low self-esteem. They don’t think that they are “worthy of love“ because their last partner cheated on them.
Or the other angle is that they walk away jaded, angry at men or angry at women and not trusting the sex that cheated on them possibly for the rest of their lives.
A damaging fact that could and should be avoided.
And what about children? Oh my God! Destroyed in the name of your affair!
I’m not being dramatic here. Over 40 years working as a counselor, and number one best-selling author, I have seen the destruction of complete families, I have seen children as young as three and his old is 18 destroyed when one of the parents decides to have an affair and is caught.
And even if the parent is not caught, children are so intuitive, that they know that you’re out of integrity without even knowing why they feel that way.
Up until 1997, when I went through a complete 52-week course on codependency and integrity, there were multiple times before that that I had affairs on my partners even as a counselor.
I justified them. I rationalized them. And then I denied that what I did was wrong.
I was completely out of integrity!
When I finally realized how damaging my actions were to myself and others, I made a complete turnaround in 1997 and promised myself that I would never go there again, and from that day until the day I die, I never will.
Why?
I have no interest in feeling guilt or shame for cheating on a partner.
I have no interest in living out of integrity.
I have no interest in trying to cover up time that I was away, I have no interest in lying, I have no interest in being anything other than the best David Essel I can be.
If you read this, and you know I’m talking directly to you, contact me today and let’s work together from anywhere in the world at https://www.davidessel.com
The freedom that I have experienced since deciding to never walk into an affair again, the freedom that so many of my clients have experienced by making the same decision is indescribable, beautiful, powerful, and filled with confidence and love.
And there are only two options if you’re on the verge of having an affair:
Number One. Get professional help and plan on being in with a counselor, therapist, or relationship coach for a minimum of 3 to 6 months.
Number Two. Get a divorce, break up the relationship, get honest with yourself, and please, whatever you do, stop hurting other people.
The chaos and drama will be out of your life forever. Your integrity will return. Your confidence will return. And if you struggle either being the victim of the affair, or you’re struggling today because of affairs that you’ve created in the past, let’s work together and clean up whether you were the victim or the victimizer, so that everyone can move together with greater inner peace, calmness, and truth.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by so many different organizations like Psychology Today, Therapy Tribe, Theravive, marriage.com has also verified David as one of the top relationship counselors and experts in the world.
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David Essel, M. S. O.M., is a number one best-selling author (12), counselor, master life coach, international speaker, radio/tv host and minister whose mission is to positively affect 2 million people or more every day, in every area of life, regardless of their current circumstances.
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