Blog Layout

ADD: A Blessing? A Curse?

Do you currently have ADD or attention deficit disorder?


Do you find it a curse?


Probably about 90% of the world’s population does.


Or do you find it a blessing?


Probably about 10% of the population in the world looks at attention deficit disorder as a blessing in their life.


Over the last 42 years, I’ve worked with many clients dealing with ADD and or ADHD which is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and I will cover that in another article.


And 90% of the time the only reason they come to me is that their attention deficit disorder has created great conflict in their work, their social life, or in a relationship with a partner or their family.


And it can be quite challenging!


A person with attention deficit disorder has a very hard time normally focusing, their mind will jump from one topic to the next, they may start to clean out the garage and a quarter of the way third through it they go and decide to do the dishes and they get halfway through that and then they get a phone call and… I think you know where I’m going.


For kids in school, it can be quite challenging, because they’re often seen as the “troublemakers“, or that they are undisciplined because they can’t focus on one thing at a time.


I recently worked with a member of our military, who had become very frustrated because no matter what position he took in the military, it demanded extreme focus, he was normally at a desk, and it was the worst job in the world for him!


Through our work, I discovered that in high school he had so much fun messing around with cars, motorcycles, and more that I encouraged him to see within his branch of the military would it be possible to move from his desk position to a more active position in mechanic repair

And it worked!


Every day with something different, as a matter of fact every hour could be a different task which worked perfectly with his ability to focus.

But unfortunately, this is one of the successes that most people will never read about.


Instead, the person struggling with attention deficit disorder may go on medication that could work… But without therapeutic skills, and emotionally regulating tools, it’s very easy for the person with this condition to become depressed, frustrated, or turn to addiction.


We’ve had many young adults come in who were put on Adderall or Ritalin, which is a stimulant, and in many cases with someone with attention deficit disorder it can help them to focus, but so many of the young adults and even people in their 30s and 40s will start to use the Ritalin or Adderall as a recreational drug, eventually snorting it to get the high they want, which can often then turn into much heavier drug use.


In my case, I wasn’t diagnosed with ADD and ADHD until my 30s, which totally explains part of the reason that I became an alcoholic, as a way to slow down and calm my brain.


Not the best of choices!


But I was doing the best I could at that moment.


And then I realized that if I set up my career where every hour was a different topic, a different person in my counseling practice, one hour I might write an article, the next article I might do a personal growth video, the next hour would be a client… I think you get the picture!


My life literally changed when I started to reframe my ADD from the negative into the positive!


And it was one of the best moves I could make. I remember one of my first jobs when I graduated from college was in the hospital system, and I was behind a desk seven out of the eight hours every day and it was driving me out of my mind.


Once I became an entrepreneur, everything changed because I had to wear so many hats and juggle so many responsibilities every day… it fit right in with my ADD!


There’s a great book that talks about believe it or not the power of consuming large amounts of water every day to combat symptoms of ADD and ADHD.


The name of the book is “Our bodies many cries for water.“ And it’s something I would consider reading because the more you intake you increase your fluid intake, there is a correlation between that and healthy mood reactions to this world.


When we’re dehydrated, we can become irritable, impatient, some of the very traits that people with attention deficit disorder face every day.


So the very first thing I would do, if you’re an adult, I would look at the current job you’re in and see if there isn’t even a lateral move that will put you in a position that is more active, more stimulating, to match your ADD.


And while I’m not against medication, most of the medications for ADD are highly addictive! I would try every lifestyle move possible like finding the right position at work, or if you’re a student breaking up your study habits into 15 or 20-minute sessions at the longest!


If you are not on any pharmaceutical medication, you may benefit from an amino acid called tyrosine, which can help in regard to brain focus.

But if you’re on any type of antidepressant, antianxiety medication, or even any of the ADD medication‘s do not combine that with tyrosine.


The initial steps above will get you on a pathway of healing, and I can tell you some 35 years after I was diagnosed, I feel that even though my ADD and ADHD at times can feel a little uncomfortable, 90% of the time I figure it out through lifestyle choices, exercise, clean eating, meditation, prayer, journaling and creating a daily schedule in my work that allows me to jump from topic to topic which keeps me highly focused and engaged in life.


If you’re a veteran, or active military, or even a family member who struggles with ADD or ADHD, please join our group, or you may struggle with addictions or depression or anxiety so that we can help you heal at http://www.helpveteransheal.org


If you’re a first responder, caregiver, doctor, nurse, Emt, health aide worker and you struggle with any type of addiction or mental health challenge, please join our group at http://www.helpingfirstrespondersheal.org 


If you’re a member of the general public, and you need help or your child needs help or your partner needs help with ADD or ADHD reach out to me directly at https://www.davidessel.com


It’s time to change the conversation around ADD.


It’s time to change the mindset, that this is a major issue with no solutions other than drugs.


It’s time. Join me in the change.“


David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“


His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by so many organizations, like, Psychology TodayTheraviveTherapy Tribe, and marriage.com has verified David as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.



Join one of David’s groups above, or work with him one on one from anywhere at https://www.davidessel.com


By David Essel August 5, 2024
#1 BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, LIFE COACH & COUNSELOR DAVID ESSEL M.S. HAS BEEN SELECTED AS "THE BEST LIFE COACH IN FORT MYERS, FLORIDA" BY THE 2024 QUALITY BUSINESS AWARDS
By David Essel June 3, 2024
Even though I’ve been in this industry counseling people on sex, addiction, and porn addiction for 45 years, we have never seen the increase of these two addictions, and they can be quite different, that we’ve seen over the past five years. Porn addiction hijacks the brain, and it makes it very difficult to stay in any type of a committed relationship, because individuals become so used to the constant variety and changing of the different fetishes as well as body types and experiences that the Internet offers up even for free! SEX Addiction, when we’re talking about an individual that must have multiple partners, or someone that even forces their partner to have sex more than maybe the partner wants, it can be a completely different ball game in regard to treatment and recovery. And that’s because of the emotional involvement that many people get into when they have a sex addiction with real people, where that doesn’t happen as frequently if someone is addicted to porn, they may like certain porn actors or actresses, but they don’t create an emotional bond. But as I mentioned above, porn, addiction is nothing to take simple or easy, I have multiple clients right now in their late 20s that started their porn addiction at the age of 10 and even though they have wonderful partners they can’t have sex on a regular basis because they cannot keep an erection due to their craving for variety versus just being with one person. Every Addiction, we treat in a very similar way which might sound surprising, even our new book on permanent alcohol and life recovery, we use most of that information in that book with people who are addicted to sex or porn or food or social media or video games… I think you get the idea so many addictions when we get into treatment are treated in a very similar fashion. First we find the origin of the addiction, which means when did it start, why did it start, how did it start, and how long has it been going on? And we treat the whole person not just the Addiction part of it, because we want the whole person to gain that self-confidence back and self-love, which we lose when we’re involved with any addiction whatsoever. If you’re struggling with porn or sex addiction, go ahead and look at our permanent addiction, recovery page, study deeply study this page and that should give you some good ideas and how we approach all addictions. In 2024, the top addictions that we are working with of course are sex and porn, food, alcohol, pot and social media addiction. The addictions continue to rise in this country and until we get to the origin, which we do our practice, and then add solution steps, so people will not cross addict, or relapse, we have answers for everything. Here is a quote from a woman that I worked with several years ago who never thought she’d be able to break her sex and porn addiction as she was struggling with both. "David shared with me information that was so deep, I had no idea the difference between the porn addiction I had or the addiction I had with phone sex, or with men in general. It was a way for me to escape reality, my work demands a lot of hours, and I was using my sex and porn addiction as a way to give myself a break, sort of like a reward for all the hours I worked. However, it almost cost me my job as I started showing up late on a regular basis because I wanted to get one more orgasm at home before I left for work .” She is now free of both addictions and has been for over 15 years after going through our program. I know you’ll find the same success regardless of what type of sex or porn addiction you’re struggling with right now. Never give up! I will be by your side showing you the way, to complete freedom. Learn more here https://www.davidessel.com/permanent-alcohol-addiction-recovery David Essel
By David Essel November 4, 2023
Join me for 8/30-minute sessions at 50% off, and we can begin to see the path moving faster than you might think.
By David Essel October 31, 2023
We are all in this together, let’s support each other as we go forward in times that are so uncertain.
praying circle
By David Essel October 29, 2023
We all understand the world is challenged deeply right now. We also understand that prayer is a powerful medium to help everyone go to that next level regardless of what they’re struggling with.
dating advice
By David Essel October 21, 2023
Most of us can look back at some of our romantic relationships and know they probably should have ended before they did.
Alcoholism and family
By David Essel October 3, 2023
Alcoholism has and is currently destroying more families in this country than anyone would ever want to believe!
overwhelmed
By David Essel September 20, 2023
We can help with the overwhelm... Let's work together
Free Audible
By David Essel September 1, 2023
Free Audible Book? Yes! Grab David's newest book FREE! For all professional athletes and their fans, David's newest book will surely entertain and educate!
More Posts
Share by: