How to Worship Your Partner? Do You Know How?
Do you know how to worship your partner?
That’s an interesting question, isn’t it?
How many times have you heard someone say “I absolutely worship my partner.“?
It doesn’t happen very often, does it?
But it should. Here’s why.
Over 30 years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and minister David Essel has been helping individuals learn the art of true intimacy, and in doing so has watched so many relationships explode to become everything each partner always wanted it to become.
Below, David shares some thoughts on the power of worshiping your partner.
” For many, when I talk to them about worshiping their partner, they look at me like I must be crazy!
Worship? Put them ahead of me?
And yet, the lost art of worshiping our partner is one of the things that we could do starting today, that might surprise them, but could also open up new gateways to deeper love, intimacy, and connection.
I learned this lesson the hard way. For most of my adult life in the world of dating, I believed it was important for my partner to be totally into everything that I am, which is another word for worship or another definition for worship, while myself on the other hand could appreciate some of what they brought to the table but I wasn’t fully engaged in worshiping them at every level.
As a counselor, I’m being very vulnerable here, very honest with you by telling you that David Essel wasn’t always the best in his intimate relationships.
But that all changed in 1997, when I started to work in the world of erotic love, helping couples that were struggling with intimacy to get back on the track of why they married or dated in the first place: to create the deepest most intimate relationship they could ever imagine.
Filled with honesty.
Filled with vulnerability.
And… Filled with daily worship.
Worshiping your partner is a beautiful habit to get into, daily.
It’s letting them know daily how beautiful or attractive they are to you… How appreciative you are for the gifts that they bring to the relationship… How important they are in your life… And how you would like to make sure that they achieve their own personal goals in life as well as the goals you may have set as a couple.
When I first learned about this technique and started to apply it to the relationship I was in back then, we skyrocketed!
Even though the relationship eventually ended, we both learned so much, we both understood the power of worshiping our partner, and we realized that even if the relationship didn’t last we were going to continue on this powerful path of worship in the future.
As a matter of fact, this concept is so important to me that I wrote a brand new book “50 Flavors of Erotic Love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“, And a big part of the book that you will read about is the concept of worshiping your partner.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the assertive one in the relationship, the dominant one in the relationship or you might be the more passive one in the relationship, maybe you’re more submissive in the relationship, but both sides of the equation should be worshiping each other!
When I first started teaching this in the late 90s, people that were used to being in a sort of role in a relationship looked at me like I was crazy… Why should I worship my partner? They are more passive than I am… They’re more submissive than I am…
But the answer became pretty evident when they started to treat their partner with the ultimate respect regardless if they were the assertive one or the passive one.
For the assertive partner or the dominant partner, it’s going to be a challenge to your ego following my advice, because you may have been taught the opposite, to be in control, to be telling your partner what to do daily, you may have bought into that philosophy for years.
But I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t last long. Eventually, the passive or submissive partner becomes resentful, and that leads to the breakdown of so many relationships.
To learn the art of worshiping your partner it is going to take time, and in the book, we give you exercises so that you can learn how to start to change your approach to intimacy so you can create the love life you’ve always wanted.
And today, not tomorrow, is the best time to begin“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny Mccarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor, minister has been verified by organizations like Psychology Today, and marriage.com has also verified David as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.
To grab David‘s new book, or to work with him on your intimate relationship, one on one via phone or Skype from anywhere in the world, please visit www.DavidEssel.com
