I Want to Be Just Like Him!

“I want to be just like… Him!“

Have you ever met someone, that you’d love to be a reflection of?

Have you ever met someone, who touched you so deeply, that you said you’d love to have the qualities or characteristics of this person?

If you look around yourself today, with the people that you hang out with, the people that you know, is there anyone that you can think of that you truly would love to become more like?

Over the past 42 years in my work in the world of personal growth, I thought about this question a lot.

And I’ve looked at the people around me, and I have some amazing people around me, to figure out who do I want to emulate? Who do I want to be more like?

I think this is a very healthy perspective. It tells us that our ego is in check, that we are open-minded, that we are vulnerable and humble because we want to improve ourselves and to try to become just like someone we might know.

Or maybe you don’t even know this individual, but you’ve seen them in action, and you know that picking up some of their personality traits or characteristics could make a huge difference in your life as well.

Who would that person be that you would like to emulate?

Recently, I came to the conclusion that I know exactly who I want to be more like.

This person lived with incredible integrity. Incredible humility. This person that I want to become more like, is emotionally powerful! I want to be just like this person in so many different ways.

This person that I want to become more like has incredibly deep faith, but they never have ever really talked about their faith, you can just tell it in the way they speak, and how they handle adversity and challenges.

This person that I want to become more like has never had any interest in the spotlight, but behind the scenes that they have fed and clothed the homeless, they have reached out to the marginalized in our society and offered a helping hand or a kind of word.

This person that I want to be more like has such incredible emotional control, that even in times of great stress, pain and adversity they would look at the people taking care of them and constantly say… “Thank you!“.

I’ve known this person for my whole life, but it’s only been in the last four years that I really started focusing on what they bring to this world and how they handle themselves in both the good times and the bad.

And I cannot think of anyone I want to be more like… than my father!

Even though he recently passed away, I had 2 1/2 hours after he died telling him everything in the world that I wanted him to know. And I am 100% positive he heard everything I said.

“Dad, I want you to know how much you have influenced my existence. Over the last four years, watching you suffer, go through so many surgeries, we thought we lost you so many times, and somehow you continued to bounce back!

You never complained. When mom was having her episodes with dementia, and was not in her right mind, saying things that could be very cruel or hurtful, all you did was sit there and hold her hand.

As mom was dying, the last couple years of her life, you never complained once, you just sat by her with all of your own illnesses, and focused on loving her to the highest degree I have ever seen.

Your faith has been unbelievable your whole life. At 72 you became an altar boy, as a way to serve God at a deeper level. How many people do that dad?

From the age of 65 until 75 you and mom went to church seven days a week, to deepen your faith and then to be of service to the homeless and the extremely low income that came to the church basement to get food, clothing, and more.

There’s no one in the world dad, that I want to be more like than you. I am going to try my best, carry on your legacy of compassion for others, love for others, emotional control and power, and your service to God in every possible way you can.

I know I have my work cut out for me, and I’m ready.“

My brother Terry and sister Marydiane, as the 2 main caregivers for my mom and dad over the past 4 years, would agree 100% with my feelings about our dad. We were so amazingly fortunate, and we know it.

The man that I want to become more like, passed away approximately 30 days ago. And I will not let him down.

My career direction will begin to go even much deeper in my spiritual practices and courses. My understanding of the “silent power”, leading by complete example, my dad brought to this world, I will continue to go deeper in this direction as well.

I am wearing my dad’s Timex watch, it must be 30 years old, still working, even though I never wear watches.

Because my dad lost his hair at 30, I have decided to not ever cut my hair again.

Now, some people may look at these points as ridiculous, and that’s ok. His watch, and growing my hair, will remind me of dad every day, and the responsibility of doing my best to keep his legacy strong.

I will have challenges to be a man like my dad. I will struggle at times to become more like him. But I know it’s what I’m here for, the rest of my existence is to honor him in every way I can.

And I will.

How about you? Who is it that you would like to become more like? I’m going to ask you to write a story to yourself just like the one I wrote here. Write about the person you want to become more like… And then do it. Just do it.“

David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says, “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“

His work as a counselor and minister has been verified, by so many organizations like Psychology Today, Therapy Tribe, Theravive, and marriage.com has verified David is one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.



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