Sensual Evolution: Are You Evolviong? Or Stuck?
Life is all about evolution.
We go from walking to riding a bike, to driving a car.
We evolve from hopefully self-centered, arrogant individuals to peace-loving service-oriented individuals.
And the same should happen in our sex life. Our sensual life. But does it?
For the past 30 years, number one best-selling author, counselor, minister David Essel has been helping people to evolve through their sexual desires and sensual desires to create deeply bonded relationships that are exciting for life.
Below, David talks about the need for all of us to be evolving in a sensual and sexual way.
“Evolution is a natural process, and in some areas, it happens whether we want it to or not.
But the most special form of evolution is when we choose to change to better our lives.
Now when I talk like this, and of course this article is about sexuality and sensuality with your partner, current one or a future one, are you evolving?
In other words, over the past two years, have you altered your attitude regarding sexuality? Beliefs systems around sensuality?
Or are you still operating from the belief system you had even just two years ago?
As a counselor for over 30 years, I can tell you most of us get stuck in a pattern, a sexual or sensual pattern, and we’re afraid to break out of it because we don’t want to be judged… criticized… Or worse yet abandoned.
And yet, if we stay with the same sensual and sexual mindset that we’ve had for the past 10 years, why would we be surprised when we’re bored with our partner? When we become addicted to pornography? Or alcohol? Or work?
In other words, if we’re not evolving in the sensual world of relationships, we are falling behind.
You’re either evolving. Or you’re falling behind.
And this is why I wrote our top-selling book, “50+ Flavors of Erotic Love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“ Because I see way too many relationships being destroyed because of boredom, affairs, pornography, and more.
In other words, so many of the couples that we share the stories of in this book, talk about how they were bored with their partner, they hadn’t kissed in five years, they have sex because they feel obligated to not because they want to.
The combination of the above easily explains the high divorce rate and the even higher dysfunctional marriage rate in this country.
I was recently talking to a woman who’s been married for 20 years about this very topic, she hired me because she wanted to explore a new side of her sexuality, and when I asked her when the last time her husband and she had made love, French kissed, and really enjoyed their time in bed together… She said, “French kissed?“
In other words, she had not French kissed any man in her life since high school!
She was embarrassed to admit the truth, but she said “ David I think we just got really bored with each other which is why I’m working with you, my husband gives me a peck on the cheek before we have sex, and then he orgasms and I orgasm and then we roll over and go to sleep. We’ve lost our sexual connection.“
In our book, we gave you 50+ different opportunities to expand your sensual and sexual life.
We cover a variety of couples on the verge of divorce that totally turned their marriage around when they started talking openly about their sensual and sexual desires.
I ran into a single woman today who had purchased my book, and she told me it’s already made the biggest difference in her life because she knows now how to communicate, openly, with her next boyfriend about her needs, as well as feeling comfortable now asking him about his needs.
Before she read the book? She was frigid. Afraid to talk about sex. Sensuality. She was afraid of being rejected.
We need to change the sexual and sensual culture of our country, we need to evolve, now, so we can decrease the divorce rates and increase the percentage of happy people, happy couples in our country. Is it possible? Hell yes. I am living proof.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is a new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by so many different organizations such as Psychology Today, Theravive, Therapy Tribe and marriage.com has verified David is one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.
For more information on how you can work one on one with David in your relationship, or if you’re single, as well as to grab his brand new book please visit www.davidessel.com
