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Valentine's Day. Planning the Perfect Day.

Valentine’s Day, one of the most important days in the world for lovers!

A lot is expected of us on Valentine’s Day, to share our love, our intimacy, and our desire with our partner.

Since it’s the day to celebrate love, do you have any new intimate ideas to share with your partner?

And have you planned yet for this year‘s big day?

Or, are you going to procrastinate because of the pandemic waiting to see what might happen?

Let’s get it right: now is the time to plan.

For the past 30+ years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and minister David Essel‘s been helping couples learn how to connect on a spiritual, emotional, and intimate level.

Below, he gives a few ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day one that you and your partner will never forget.

“To women, many women, Valentine’s Day is THE day of the year.

Some men believe the same, some men are very into Valentine’s Day… But if you’re not, you’re really going to want to pay attention to this article to give you a few ideas on how to make it very special for your partner.

You can always go out to restaurants, we’re in the pandemic, restaurants will be crammed and if you’re going to make a reservation for a restaurant you should do it today!

Now there’s nothing wrong with going to a restaurant to celebrate Valentine’s Day, but if that’s all you’re going to do… That’s not enough in my opinion.

As a counselor for 30 years, I still see so much dysfunction in love, so much dysfunction and lack of intimacy in couples from around the world and I want this article to change all of that.

So if you want to make this Valentine’s Day very special take the following simple steps:

Number One. Create several notes that you’re going to leave around the house, to stimulate your partner and let them know that this Valentine’s Day it’s going to be a very special day.

Number Two. About four days before Valentine’s Day put the first note out. Maybe you leave it the night before if your partner gets up first and let her see that you’re going to be doing something special this year.

For example: “Valentine’s Day is four days away, and I’m going to surprise you with this amazing intimate opportunity to share my love with you… Get ready.“

Then :

“There are three days left to Valentine’s Day, I’ve purchased a few gifts for us that I cannot wait to share with you because I want you to know how much I worship you and want you satisfied with me every day of our lives.”

Then:

“Two days left to Valentine’s Day my love, are you getting excited? In just two days I’ll be giving you the Valentine’s Day present of your life.“

Then:

“One day left! Tomorrow night, you’ll be getting home before me, I would love for you to take a shower with your favorite soap that I just purchased you’ll find it on your vanity, wear your favorite perfume, and I love it when you wear that dark eyeshadow over your eyes… Tomorrow night we will be in bliss.“

Then:

“It is here! Happy Valentine’s Day my love! After taking your shower and putting on your make up and perfume, I would love for you to reach underneath the bed and pull out a small box that will include massage oil, eyeshades, and a brand new vibrator that I will use in order to bring you to levels of ecstasy over and over again.

I want you to feel worshiped my love, I want you to feel craved for, I want this whole evening to be about you and our connection… I want to look in your eyes, French kiss you slowly, and let you know you’re the only woman for me.“

More examples of how you can increase your intimate connection with your partner are available in our brand new top-selling book “50+ Flavors of Erotic Love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“

OK guys I just did your homework for you!

And ladies? You can follow the same above, I made it gender-specific just to make it easier to write this article, but any woman can do the same thing for your partner and let’s not worry about if you’re not in a heterosexual relationship.

The ideas I’m giving you today can work for anyone and everyone regardless of your sexual orientation.

Let’s bring the love, the intimacy, and even the erotic touch back into Valentine’s Day… Where it should be.“

David Essel‘s work as a counselor, number one best selling author, and minister has been verified by organizations like psychology today, and marriage.com has verified David as one of the top relationship counselors and experts in the world.

To work with David one on one to enhance your intimacy, from anywhere in the world, visit http://www.DavidEssel.com

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By David Essel • August 5, 2024

#1 BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, LIFE COACH & COUNSELOR DAVID ESSEL M.S. HAS BEEN SELECTED AS "THE BEST LIFE COACH IN FORT MYERS, FLORIDA" BY THE 2024 QUALITY BUSINESS AWARDS

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By David Essel • June 3, 2024

Even though I’ve been in this industry counseling people on sex, addiction, and porn addiction for 45 years, we have never seen the increase of these two addictions, and they can be quite different, that we’ve seen over the past five years. Porn addiction hijacks the brain, and it makes it very difficult to stay in any type of a committed relationship, because individuals become so used to the constant variety and changing of the different fetishes as well as body types and experiences that the Internet offers up even for free! SEX Addiction, when we’re talking about an individual that must have multiple partners, or someone that even forces their partner to have sex more than maybe the partner wants, it can be a completely different ball game in regard to treatment and recovery. And that’s because of the emotional involvement that many people get into when they have a sex addiction with real people, where that doesn’t happen as frequently if someone is addicted to porn, they may like certain porn actors or actresses, but they don’t create an emotional bond. But as I mentioned above, porn, addiction is nothing to take simple or easy, I have multiple clients right now in their late 20s that started their porn addiction at the age of 10 and even though they have wonderful partners they can’t have sex on a regular basis because they cannot keep an erection due to their craving for variety versus just being with one person. Every Addiction, we treat in a very similar way which might sound surprising, even our new book on permanent alcohol and life recovery, we use most of that information in that book with people who are addicted to sex or porn or food or social media or video games… I think you get the idea so many addictions when we get into treatment are treated in a very similar fashion. First we find the origin of the addiction, which means when did it start, why did it start, how did it start, and how long has it been going on? And we treat the whole person not just the Addiction part of it, because we want the whole person to gain that self-confidence back and self-love, which we lose when we’re involved with any addiction whatsoever. If you’re struggling with porn or sex addiction, go ahead and look at our permanent addiction, recovery page, study deeply study this page and that should give you some good ideas and how we approach all addictions. In 2024, the top addictions that we are working with of course are sex and porn, food, alcohol, pot and social media addiction. The addictions continue to rise in this country and until we get to the origin, which we do our practice, and then add solution steps, so people will not cross addict, or relapse, we have answers for everything. Here is a quote from a woman that I worked with several years ago who never thought she’d be able to break her sex and porn addiction as she was struggling with both. "David shared with me information that was so deep, I had no idea the difference between the porn addiction I had or the addiction I had with phone sex, or with men in general. It was a way for me to escape reality, my work demands a lot of hours, and I was using my sex and porn addiction as a way to give myself a break, sort of like a reward for all the hours I worked. However, it almost cost me my job as I started showing up late on a regular basis because I wanted to get one more orgasm at home before I left for work .” She is now free of both addictions and has been for over 15 years after going through our program. I know you’ll find the same success regardless of what type of sex or porn addiction you’re struggling with right now. Never give up! I will be by your side showing you the way, to complete freedom. Learn more here https://www.davidessel.com/permanent-alcohol-addiction-recovery David Essel