Valentine's Day. Planning the Perfect Day.

Valentine’s Day, one of the most important days in the world for lovers!


A lot is expected of us on Valentine’s Day, to share our love, our intimacy, and our desire with our partner.


Since it’s the day to celebrate love, do you have any new intimate ideas to share with your partner?


And have you planned yet for this year‘s big day?


Or, are you going to procrastinate because of the pandemic waiting to see what might happen?


Let’s get it right: now is the time to plan.


For the past 30+ years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and minister David Essel‘s been helping couples learn how to connect on a spiritual, emotional, and intimate level.


Below, he gives a few ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day one that you and your partner will never forget.


“To women, many women, Valentine’s Day is THE day of the year.


Some men believe the same, some men are very into Valentine’s Day… But if you’re not, you’re really going to want to pay attention to this article to give you a few ideas on how to make it very special for your partner.


You can always go out to restaurants, we’re in the pandemic, restaurants will be crammed and if you’re going to make a reservation for a restaurant you should do it today!


Now there’s nothing wrong with going to a restaurant to celebrate Valentine’s Day, but if that’s all you’re going to do… That’s not enough in my opinion.


As a counselor for 30 years, I still see so much dysfunction in love, so much dysfunction and lack of intimacy in couples from around the world and I want this article to change all of that.


So if you want to make this Valentine’s Day very special take the following simple steps:


Number One. Create several notes that you’re going to leave around the house, to stimulate your partner and let them know that this Valentine’s Day it’s going to be a very special day.


Number Two. About four days before Valentine’s Day put the first note out. Maybe you leave it the night before if your partner gets up first and let her see that you’re going to be doing something special this year.


For example: “Valentine’s Day is four days away, and I’m going to surprise you with this amazing intimate opportunity to share my love with you… Get ready.“


Then :


“There are three days left to Valentine’s Day, I’ve purchased a few gifts for us that I cannot wait to share with you because I want you to know how much I worship you and want you satisfied with me every day of our lives.”


Then:


“Two days left to Valentine’s Day my love, are you getting excited? In just two days I’ll be giving you the Valentine’s Day present of your life.“


Then:


“One day left! Tomorrow night, you’ll be getting home before me, I would love for you to take a shower with your favorite soap that I just purchased you’ll find it on your vanity, wear your favorite perfume, and I love it when you wear that dark eyeshadow over your eyes… Tomorrow night we will be in bliss.“


Then:


“It is here! Happy Valentine’s Day my love! After taking your shower and putting on your make up and perfume, I would love for you to reach underneath the bed and pull out a small box that will include massage oil, eyeshades, and a brand new vibrator that I will use in order to bring you to levels of ecstasy over and over again.


I want you to feel worshiped my love, I want you to feel craved for, I want this whole evening to be about you and our connection… I want to look in your eyes, French kiss you slowly, and let you know you’re the only woman for me.“


More examples of how you can increase your intimate connection with your partner are available in our brand new top-selling book “50+ Flavors of Erotic Love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“


OK guys I just did your homework for you!


And ladies? You can follow the same above, I made it gender-specific just to make it easier to write this article, but any woman can do the same thing for your partner and let’s not worry about if you’re not in a heterosexual relationship.


The ideas I’m giving you today can work for anyone and everyone regardless of your sexual orientation.


Let’s bring the love, the intimacy, and even the erotic touch back into Valentine’s Day… Where it should be.“


David Essel‘s work as a counselor, number one best selling author, and minister has been verified by organizations like psychology today, and marriage.com has verified David as one of the top relationship counselors and experts in the world.



To work with David one on one to enhance your intimacy, from anywhere in the world, visit http://www.DavidEssel.com 



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I am reaching out to all of my former clients, excitedly offering you a free 30 minute session to help you prepare and make 2026 your year! Whatever you’d like to work on, creating new goals, letting go of bad habits… We will rock in 30 minutes and get you moving in a beautiful way! Whether we talk about addictions, relationships, spirituality, finances, mental health, entrepreneurship, grief, weight loss,… For almost 50 years, we’ve covered the above topics and more! Just reply to this email, saying, “I would love my free 30 minute session with David as a former client!“ And my team will set it all up for you.😊 For everyone here who has not been a former client, I want to remind you that we always have gifts for you as well: when you go to the website on the homepage, you’ll see 5 of our top 16 best selling books absolutely free! So even if you never worked with me as a client, you still have this opportunity to get all five books at no charge. By doing this, you will also have an edge and making 2026 your year! I’m excited to help as many people as I can. The whole reason I’m on earth is to do this work, and I know you and I together can help you create a plan of action that will bring you what you desire in the next 365 days ahead! Sending love, David and Team David
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I sit here today, like many people, looking back at the last five years and understanding the struggle that most of us have been going through. Like me, you might be experiencing a holiday season without a loved one Like me you might be experiencing a holiday season that has been preceded by several years of deep trauma, that for many of us is a part of our lives… Even though we wish it wasn’t. In the struggles we’ve all faced, I think it’s so important to figure out what we’re learning about ourselves, what we’re learning about our belief systems, what we’re learning about self-care and how we treat others. Normally people do these posts on January 1 getting everyone ready for the new year, but I wanted to do it today because 2026 is in our hands, it can be complete crap, or it can be something quite different. It really depends on our perspective, our mindset, and how we’re willing to change what isn’t working now into what will work in the near future. Some of us have had incredible health struggles. Others have had relationship break ups. Others have gone through Divorce. Others have gone through financial collapse. Others have tried to figure out the whole world of grieving, after losing a loved one when they’ve never been in that position before. Others have struggled with finding the right job, the right career Others have struggled with deep mental health issues, anxiety, depression, mental issues. So we come to this point, and we can either hold onto the struggles that we’ve gone through over the last five years or we can slowly start to release them and look for tools that are all over the place and how to change our mindset how to change our subconscious mind and how to expect the best after five years of hell for many of us. Is it possible? Hell, yes! But we have to decide now… How we’re going to strengthen our mental health, how we’re going to improve our physical health, how we’re going to improve our relationships, how we’re going to improve our financial situation, how we’re going to improve anything else not mentioned here that has been a stressful experience for us in the past. Many of us will find solace in a deep connection by going deeper into your spiritual or religious experiences. Others will find solace by finding a mentor, counselor, teacher who can assist us because they’ve already been in the situation we’re currently facing. Others will find solace “community“, whether it’s business groups or Recovery, groups, or mastermind groups, community could be the answer for many people who are struggling right now. Others will find solace simply by letting go! By releasing the constant grind… By releasing the Constant need to “have more buy more“ Others will find solace by going deeper into the world of volunteerism, whether it’s pet shelters or reading to the blind, there’s so many different ways that you can start to shift your identity from struggle to service. Others will find solace by going into the creative world, by learning a musical instrument or learning how to draw or paint or woodwork or some other type of hobby that allows them to tap into different parts of the brain to continue to grow as a human being, not to get stuck in the negativity. I have clients that have found great solace in the last six months by completely getting off of all social media. I have clients in the last six months that found solace by completely eliminating anything to do with the news or political conversations. I have clients in the last year that never believe they’d be able to meditate or learn diaphragmatic breathing or learn emotional regulation or lose 50 to 100 pounds and yet they’ve all done it in the last 12 months! But it didn’t happen because they started 30 days ago it’s happened because they started 12 months ago which is the whole purpose of my article here! Now is the time my brothers and sisters to begin the change! Now is the time to start to really learn about the power of your subconscious mind and how to turn it into one of the greatest assets you’ve ever had in your life and I promise you this… If you learn how to master The subconscious mind in 12 months, you’ll be a completely different person potentially in every area of your life! I’ve seen that happen in my life! I’ve seen it happen in thousands of thousands of clients that I’ve worked with over the past 50 years… Their lives completely changed in a year or less! This is why I am Asking you to strongly consider taking the time now up until January 1 to really get yourself going so on January 2 you know what you’re gonna be doing every day in order to shatter the old triggers, to shatter the old fears and insecurities, and to bring you to the place that you want to be financially, relationship, wise, healthwise, mentally, emotionally… I want you in 12 months or less to be exactly where you want to be and I know you can do it because I’ve seen it happen over 1000 times! You have the power to radically change your life right now if you so desire! You have the power to completely turn around anything that has been a trigger, and turn it into a non-event! Believe in yourself! Believe even deeper in yourself! I am wishing you the most amazing radical change if that is what’s necessary in your life, so you can live the life of your desires, your dreams and create at the same time opportunities for others to see what’s possible… You become the role model for success! I’m sending you so much love, so much joy, and a prayer that you take 2026 seriously enough to begin in writing the daily rituals that you will start to follow in order to create what you deserve. With love, David 
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