Valentine's Day: What To Do If You're Single? Self Love?
OK, so for all my single friends out there, this holiday is one that many people absolutely cannot stand.
It’s all about commercialism.
I don’t have a partner so why should I even celebrate?
Or I feel like I’m single because my partner wants nothing to do with Valentine’s Day.
So how do we show self-love, how do we take a day meant for “love and couples“, if we’re single and make it into something special?
Below, number one best-selling author, counselor, master life coach, and minister David Essel gives us some ideas on what single people can do during a holiday that is meant for couples in love.
“ The other day in the gym I was talking to a woman and she brought up the concept of Valentine’s Day. She had read one of my articles on the Internet and said “David that’s great for people who are married or engaged or dating, but I’ve been single for a number of years, what the hell do I do on this day since I’m all alone?“
And I love the question… It’s a valid one… And it’s one we’re going to answer right now.
Here are a few ideas to think about when it comes to celebrating Valentine’s Day:
Number One. Since Valentine’s Day is about love, I want you to focus on self-love! So let’s get this whole thing that you have to have a partner to have a great Valentine’s Day out of our head, and focus on you! The most important person in the world who you should be loving deeply? Yes, it’s you!
Number Two. So if we really loved ourselves, we wouldn’t be jealous or angry about a holiday that is based on couples, correct? If we truly loved ourselves we would be planning right now for Valentine’s Day, “how am I going to make this Valentine’s Day special for me? How am I going to show myself that I love who I am so much, that I’m willing to celebrate Valentine’s Day even if I don’t have a partner?
Number Three. Do you happen to know any other single friends? Well of course you do! So I want you to think about talking to several people to get together to celebrate this day as single individuals, who are filled with self-love, and one of the ways we express that self love is by getting together with a few other friends and talking about what we love about each other.
Number Four. Send flowers to yourself! I’m laughing right now but I’m really being honest! Why not? When was the last time that you sent flowers to yourself? Probably never! Let’s start a new trend right now.
Number Five. You still have time, set up a massage for yourself on Valentine’s Day! There are massage centers all over the world that yes, will be open on Valentine’s Day… Or you can Google licensed massage therapists in your area and see if one might be willing to go to your house or you go to their business for a Valentine’s Day massage. Remember it’s all about self-love.
Number Six. If you’re open-minded, why don’t you think about buying something really sexy, maybe for women new lingerie or maybe for a guy a new outfit, as a sign of self love.
I had a long discussion with one of my clients who is currently in my program “Love, Relationships and Intimacy“, and she’s buying herself a vibrator for the very first time in her life!
We talked about all the different options she has, and she said you know why don’t I get something that is sexy, that I can use not only on Valentine’s Day but anytime I feel like it since I’m single?
And I think that’s a great idea!
Number Seven. Let’s plan on taking a 45-minute bubble bath, followed by ordering take out meals from one of your favorite restaurants, and watch one of your favorite movies or a brand new movie that you’ve never seen!
The whole concept of Valentine’s Day if you’re single, is to create a day of self-celebration… A day of self love…
So many of my clients over the years began complaining about being single on Valentine’s Day, and now they have their own plan, of how they’re going to make this day… A day of self-love.
I want you to do the same thing.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by organizations like psychology today, and marriage.com, has verified David as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.
To work with David one on one on your intimacy, your relationship skills, or to order his book on intimacy simply visit http://www.Davidessel.com
