Change? The Real Key to Changing Habits
Change? The real key to changing habits? This will definitely surprise you!
Bad habits can be really hard to break.
Smoking. Drinking. Eating junk food. Staying up too late. Nicotine. Pot.
Or maybe you’re one of those people that has a habit of always having to have the last word! To win every argument!
Or maybe you’ve just gotten into this lifestyle that’s extremely lazy, you’re not taking care of the temple, the body, the mind…
So what do we do and what are the most important key steps, or steps, that we need to take to change any bad habit?
Here’s a shocker gang… It has nothing to do with what you think!
Isn’t that amazing?
For years we’ve been told that “attitude is everything“, and I’m here to tell you that that’s a bunch of nonsense!
I have worked with people over the last 42 years as a counselor, master life coach and number one best-selling author and I have seen people in the pits of depression, the pits of anxiety, the pits of addiction, radically change their life even when their attitudes sucked!
Most people when faced with bad habits, do not want to change!
If it was so easy just to have a great attitude and you would quit drinking, quit eating junk food, get to the gym… There would not be one problem in this world today.
So obviously, attitude is not everything.
A positive attitude is great, and it can help you, but this article is all about the truth: you can have a crappy attitude and still become incredibly successful in life.
How does that work?
What you do influences what you think……. much more than what you think influences what you do, in the long run.
Does that make sense?
It should… Because it’s a key to major success in any area of life.
So if you start to do things, like go to the gym even though you don’t want to, make your lunch instead of going to a fast food place, get to bed earlier, when you wake up only read or listen to or watch uplifting information… See these action steps will change your mindset for the long term!
But positive thinking, while it’s beautiful, will only change what you’re doing for a very short period of time.
I have worked with people that were huge fans of the law of attraction, meaning all they wanted to do was think positive thoughts and somehow that was going to magically bring positive things into their life… And then my number one best selling book “focus! Slay your goals“, which was ranked by bookauthority.org as one of the top 100 goal setting books ever written, we tell story after story of people that had great mindsets and great attitudes but they never followed it up with action steps and so their lives never changed.
One story we share in the book is about a woman who had created vision boards for her soulmate, had gone to every seminar in the world about how to attract her soulmate, she had written affirmations about attracting a soulmate…… but five years of following this pathway brought her no closer to finding the man of her dreams.
But when she started looking at the men she already knew, she found that there was one guy that had been in her life for years who could be the perfect partner… And so she created an opportunity for them to get together on a weekly basis for business, which turned into the most amazing love affair ever!
All of her positive thinking never brought her the man of her dreams, but taking action did!
Or how about my other client that we talked about in that book that for three years every morning wrote affirmations for an hour and a half, yet in those three years she was broke, had not been in a relationship, and had gained quite a bit of weight.
When we got her out of the incessant writing and put her in the early morning action steps, everything changed.
She doubled her income in the next year. She lost a ton of weight. And she actually went into a new career that was incredibly fulfilling, and none of this would’ve happened if she just relied on her thinking or her positive thoughts.
So please remember this: if you totally want to change your life and accomplish huge goals, focus on doing the action steps daily that you would rather not do, and your mind will catch up.
The mind will follow your actions, and as an example, if you start going to the gym four days a week before you know it your attitude is going to improve because of all the endorphins rushing through your brain!
I know this is not the easiest thing to do, and I know most of us have been brainwashed into thinking that attitude is everything, and positive thinking will bring you whatever you desire… But as you read above you see that’s not true.
If you need help, I have been in this business for 42 years working with people from all over the world via phone or Skype simply reach out to me at https://www.davidessel.com
Today is the day to change, not tomorrow, today.“
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