No Kissing?

Is kissing necessary for a great sex life?


What do you think?


Can you have a great sex life… Without kissing?


Can you have a great sex life… With minimal kissing?


For the past 30 years, number one best-selling author, counselor, and Minister David Essel has been guiding couples on how to get the most out of their intimate relationship.


Below David shares some pretty surprising facts on a radio show, he hosted with this very topic.


“I would’ve never guessed in 1 million years, that by throwing the topic about kissing and sex out on my radio show would’ve brought such a torrid response from my listeners!


And I would’ve never guessed what the answer was, from 80% of the respondents.


Are you ready?


80% of the people that called in said that kissing was not necessary for a great sex life… And several of them who had been with the same partner for 25 years said they hadn’t kissed while having sex in over 15 years!


And the super surprising thing about this question that I asked on the radio show is that most of the people who called in… were women!

How the heck do you explain that?


While this is only one version of a way to get the public’s response about kissing and sex, it was a pretty powerful one and it woke me up.


I started to realize that many of my counseling couples, while they were having sex every week, we’re not connected emotionally during sex.


I noticed that others who did not kiss while they had sex we’re not spending much time after they came to their orgasm, it was more like let’s get it done and let’s move on in life.


And it’s not that these people had terrible relationships, but they were not fulfilling. They were not complete.


One of the reasons I wrote our new top-selling book, “50+ flavors of erotic love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“, Was because of the very topic on my radio show.


And it was also because of all the conversations I have with my clients five days a week via phone or Skype, as they’re trying to improve their love life.


As I was writing my new book, more people started to come in and contact me about the need for deeper intimacy with their partner… A deeper intellectual connection… A deeper psychological connection… A deeper emotional connection.


And the pathway to a deeper emotional connection? One of the greatest tools is kissing.


You’ll read stories in this book about couples whose love life was totally turned around when they started to just focus on the act of kissing… Then focus on French kissing… Then focus on touching each other as they kissed.


One couple that you’ll read about in the book had not kissed in 10 years… And as the husband told me it was the one thing that radically turned the relationship around.


I gave them an exercise that they couldn’t go past kissing for 15 straight minutes! And they loved it!


Don’t bypass kissing. Do you remember how turned on we all were in high school when we would “make out“ with our boyfriend or girlfriend?

Bring that ecstasy back now. If you need help, reach me at www.DavidEssel.com


But don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater… Bring kissing back into your life and let’s see your intimacy evolve.


And if for some reason the thought of kissing your partner is not attractive? Then work with a professional, possibly even myself, to get to the root of your resentments, or fear, or past sexual experiences that may have altered the thought process around the importance of kissing in life.“


David Essel’s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny Mccarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.”


His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by organizations like Psychology Today, and he has been verified by, marriage.com, as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.



To get a copy of David’s new book, or to work with him one on one from anywhere in the world regarding your intimate life visit www.DavidEssel.com



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